my dh told me that everything I do

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my dh told me that everything I do
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Sun, 02-12-2006 - 5:19pm

just pi**es him off. We weren't even fighting. I just asked him why he had been so unhappy. How do you fight that? He says every little thing I do annoys him. What do I do now?

Missy, who has been crying most of the day and is very hurt.

 
 
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Sun, 02-12-2006 - 5:32pm


Missy,

Have you tried to ask him to please tell you what it is specifically(sp) that you do that upsets him? He may be having a bad day but that does not give him the right to take it out on you. This is easeier said than done, but I would not let him see how upset he made me. I would try to talk to him and see if ya'll can work it out before I did anything drastic. I understand how hurt you must be and for that I am sorry. Will he discuss with you his feelings on the matter? Let us know how things work out.

cyndi

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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 8:06am

Honey...I so understand. I wish there were magical words I could say to make it all better. Maybe he was in a mood of his own?

My dh will get in a "quiet" mood...where he acts like nothing in his life is right...like he hates everything, including me...maybe especially me...and i take EVERYTHING personally...I don't know any other way. And it triggers me so badly...I cry like you wouldn't believe...have major panic attacks...finally, after a couple days, he gets over it...things are always about ME, ya know? I always forget that he needs taking care of sometimes too. That he needs downtime too...that he needs to be depressed, or angry, or whatever it is too.

Maybe that is it?

Let me know if I can help.

Love you,

Keli

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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 9:12am

(((((((((((Missy))))))))))))


I'm so sorry...I really hate when they do stupid things like this.

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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 10:29am
I wish it was that easy. He has been unhappy for awhile now. I just don't know what to do.
 
 
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 11:04am

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ugh..ok, nevermind...I think I'm just taking this too personal


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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 2:34pm

I would love to know what you wrote. I am really struggling with this. I am just trying to stay busy today. I don't even know where to start with him. He says it is everything. Even little things that should not bother him really bug him. I KNOW I have not changed and it is not like I can change everything about it, nor would I. At this point would a counselor even help, we don't have any major issues, he apparently just does not like me. I can't stop crying today. I did not want to even get out of bed. I skipped out of class early yesterday because I was so upset. I just don't know what to do. SOme of the time, I feel like I need to start covering my butt by finding a job etc, other times I feel like I need to really work on my marriage. I am so confused. At this point I just want my two year old to nap so I can, lol.

Missy

 
 
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 3:00pm

oh, I don't even remember now either.... sorry.


I swear men to thru pms too and just don't admit it.


I would seek counceling, absolutely.

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