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Life & Stability
| Fri, 02-17-2006 - 12:10pm |
Looking at life itself and others around you, what would you describe as a "normal" life? Normal ups and downs a lot of people face everyday and problems people have now and then, Example: money, kids, work, death in family, illness...etc,
Also, what is unstable to you and what is stable to you? How do you handle both situations? Like when you are stable do you feel it is stability or something else. When you feel happy...really happy about the day, do you feel it is ok to be really happy or do you think you are manic? Is there a "norm" For you?
Just something I have thought about and thought I would get some feedback.
Tina~

I think "normal" is in the eye of the beholder.
God could not be everywhere, so
Hey Donna, thanks for responding. I suffer more from depression then mania too but I have had several manic times and hypomanic times. By the way I think you are so strong going to work and taking care of your family the way you do. It takes strength and determination to do that.
I know there is no set normal. But I was just wondering if sometimes we read too much into "A" feeling. Like feeling a little sad...does that mean we are in a depression? If we feel like laughing and being silly for the day or 2, do we place that as being manic? Where do we allow ourselves to be "Normal"? Does every feeling have to be placed in the depression box or does happy feelings and energy have to be placed in the mania box, or,
I think its awesome what you are investigating, and I do hope that more people respond...I'm very interested to see what they say too.
I see what you are saying also.
Maybe we do get so mixed up in the highs/lows that we do not realize we are stable.
God could not be everywhere, so
Believe me, Donna, There are many women who work who can not do it all. Keeping up with children and a husband and then trying to find time for yourself. I am glad you are reading a book. It helps to detract yourself from all the other stuff. Sorry about the weight gain. I am gaining too. I lose and then gain it back. It's because I am not committed enough to eat healthy. I wish I could learn to just eat healthy and then worry about the weight.
Right now my head is spinning. I have a virus or something weird happening. I had this last week for a few days and now it is back again. I feel so so weak and lightheaded. My vision is blurred and my head feels in a fog. I know this sounds weird but it almost feels like my brain is a sleep...lol I don't know. I am a little weird so why shouldn't my body be as well, right?..lol
T
have they changed your meds lately?
remember awhile back when i was having vertigo trouble?
God could not be everywhere, so
Hi all,
I dont know how mcuh help I am going to be but I dont think every mood has to be placed in a box. Like ok, ya'll both say you are more depressed than manic, so I would just look and see if you have a reason...a decent one...to be depressed or if its no reason or something very silly. Like ok, I cried for an hour the other day because I couldnt find the remote, obviously not normal...but if I would have cried because my dog died or my daugther was failing her math class, those might be normal yanno? I am not sure if that helped or not but thats what I thought of when I read your posts.
Rebekah
Tina,
I wondered this myself a lot lately.
Tina,
Well...I've thought about this...and thought about this...for a long time now...and struggled with this myself. So this is my answer...for what its worth.
I have never known what a so called "normal" person's mood is like...only from watching them...but, in watching them, I still can't KNOW what its like...I overanalyze it way too much. For me, personally...I have never had a normal mood. I'm either flying high...way high...in the pits of hell...or both at the same time...if I am happy, watch out...I'm manic. If I'm sad, or just melancholy, or upset, or crying...for any reason...I'm depressed. If I'm angry, raging, yelling, SI'ing, I'm both at the same time...If I'm not eating, I'm manic...If I'm eating too much, I'm depressed. If I am talking too much too fast, I'm hypomanic or manic...If I think I'm too cute (yes, unfortunately I have this trait and get in lots of trouble) I am manic...If I talk to certain people...I'm manic...If I hate certain people (the same certain people) I'm depressed.
Yes, I've gotten it down to a science. Literally. There is only one person here on the board that REALLY knows each and every one of these things about me and can tell exactly when they are happening without my saying so. Thankfully, she lets me know...sometimes I cycle so quickly its hard to tell...and luckily I get "reprimanded" before I get into real trouble when I get manic.
I rapid cycle so quickly, that all of this happens in cycles of minutes these days...its why I freak out so much lately. But I am working sooooo hard to get control again...I will. It's just taking a toll on me and I have to work on getting lots of stressors out of my life again.
I wouldn't know what to do with a NORMAL mood if there is such a thing. All I know are MY moods...and MY moods are MY normal moods. Does that make sense?
Yes, I've had to analyze them...and over analyze them. But its for my own well being.
I hope I've not confused anyone.
Love to all.