Feeling Worthless :o(

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Feeling Worthless :o(
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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 9:11pm

probably the first of what are going to be a lot of vents from me....and its probably not going to make a whole lot of sense....


Why is it that I am this horrible person who only cares about herself?

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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 9:31pm

Kim,


I'm not married & never have been, but I can remember being royally ticked when DD's father spent too much time with the boys (hmm--maybe that's why I'm NOT married-LOL).

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Registered: 07-21-2005
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 9:32pm

wow Kim, the first thing that caught my eye was no name calling...since 2001!!! thats awesome, you have nothing to be worried about, you are not a bad wife. Part of having bp is that sometimes you get insanely irritable and really really needy and every little thing bothers you, its okay to feel that way. What I would do is next time you are upset and want your DH to spend time with you, ask him nicely...explain that you are upset right now and really need him to stay home with you and that if you start to feel better he can go with his friends in an hour or two...explain that its not that you want him to stay home all the time and not spend time with his friends but just this time you would really like for him to stay with you for a while.

I dont think you are being selfish at all. Doing what you need for yourself and expecting him to be helpful is not selfish. Selfish is never letting him go with his friends because you know he will stay home if you ask, but not because you need him. Its normal to need your husband's support, and he should understand that. If he doesnt, try to find some books on being bipolar or maybe a website or something. I sit and read books and then when I read something I want him to understand, I say "oh honey listen to this...and read it to him" that way it doesnt sound accusing or anything like that, and he doesnt have to take a lot of time to read the book, but you still get the point to him.

I dont know if any of that is going to help, but its my 2 cents.

Rebekah

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 4:21pm

Thanks ladies!

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