How do you get over being ashamed?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
How do you get over being ashamed?
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 11:13am

As a recently diagnosed as Bipolar II- how do I get over feeling ashamed, embarrassed, guilty, and down on myself/blaming? Part of me knows this is a physical illness that requires medical attention, medication, etc. And another part of me feels like I failed and somehow I chose to be this way?

Just looking for some advice to take this hurt away....

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 11:53am
take some time to read the other posts...you'll find that there are alot of us here & we are all beautiful smart & powerful & especially compassionate.there is NOTHING to be ashamed of.do you feel that this is your fault?
because it isn't.
consider it a beginning.NOW you know what it is that's been wrong in your life.try to feel some releif in that & the power to get some releif with the help of your doctor.
please try to let go of feeling shame.
you really have nothing to be ashamed of.
not a thing.
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Registered: 04-06-2005
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 12:31pm

Hi and Welcome !!!


I think there are stages that emotionally you will go thru.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 12:41pm

Honey...those feelings are SO normal...you've been diagnosed with an illness that is attached with many negative stigmas...of course you're going to feel embarrassed and ashamed. We've all felt that way many times. It comes and goes...but gets easier with time and acceptance. Please know that, no, you didn't ask for this. Nobody would. No matter what. And most importantly...YOU DID NOT FAIL. None of us did.

We are all here together...fighting this stupid illness. I hope you'll stick around and fight with us.

You are so important, so very valid as a human and as a woman. You're not your disorder.

Know that.

Hugs,

Keli

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Registered: 11-22-2003
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 2:24pm

Hi! Welcome to the board! Thank you for reaching out, even though you feel like you want to crawl into a hole so nobody will know. It will help to reach out!


I echo totally what Donna is saying. Accepting yourself for who you are, "faults" and all is the only way to get over the shame and guilt and grief. The grief is: the dream of a "normal" life is dying. We can have a "normal" life, if we seek the help we need and learn a new normal. Ya know, considering this is a mental disorder rooted in a chemical dysfunction, it really is a physical disorder, too.


I hope you stick around! Welcome again to the board!

Take care!
~ Kristin (AKA Aislinn)
kristinmmyers@hotmail.com


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