I guess dh is going to stick around for

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I guess dh is going to stick around for
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 2:16pm

awhile longer. He is making no indication of leaving. Told me to go ahead and plan a date night together on the 17th and wants me to go with him to some family events this weekend. We are going to try some etherapy, as with his schedule and finding sitters it might work out better. I have read some on it and it is supposed to be almost as effective and cheaper (which is good since our insurance does not cover tdocs or marriage counselors). Our therapist is licensed in the state of PA and we will do our therapy in a chat room. Dh and I both have separate computers so we can all be on at the same time.

I am beyond confused, as he kissed me before he went out to lunch with some friends and is not acting all that different. I know he is still not happy but he is not doing anything to change anything at all. So now the ball is in my court. I have already emailed the counselor and am waiting for a reply to set up the first appointment, no more waiting on him. I don't know if he will open up at all for the counselor at all, but we need to try.

I won't be scarce yet. I need you guys too much. Especially now. I don't want to lose what stability I have found.

Missy

 
 
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 2:28pm

Good for you, Missy, with the therapy thing...just do it! If you want to save the marriage, then fight fight fight!!! NO matter what has been said or done up until this point, if you want it, then you gotta do what you can to save it. So, pick yourself up, and do ONLY what you can do from this moment on.

On the other hand...don't kill yourself doing so. You'll know the very moment when its either over, or the tide has turned your way...do NOT go any further than that. YOU, your mental and emotional stability and children are too important to lose yourself. But you know all that.

So, you have my love, never ending support, friendship, and SO MANY PRAYERS!

Just promise me, with all your heart, that you will be careful, okay?

Don't ever be scarce!!! EVER!

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 4:29pm
That is really good Missy.
I hope everything works out, and you guys get back on track going through counseling.
I am still here if you need me.
Hugs,
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