Update on the me and dh saga.....
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| Wed, 03-08-2006 - 7:20pm |
I told him to pack his bags and leave that I was tired of the mixed messages. I told him he could stay if he REALLY wanted to work on things but then he would have to stop sending the mixed messages like I want a divorce but I want sex, I will go to therapy, no I wont, that sort of thing. He says he has been trying to work on things. We yelled a lot at each other. I explained that while he was working on things he was pushing me away and may not be able to get me back. I am not sure where we are at, except that he is trying to figure out what is going on with him. No more kisses, love yous or any of the stuff he has been doing unless he wants to do it, not out of obligation. Guess we will see what tommorrow brings. I am quite sad tonight, but encouraged that the games might stop.
Missy


(((((Missy)))))
Its good that you confronted him about it, my honest opinion is that if he really wants to work on things...he will quit his crap. I think he may need to stay somewhere else for a while and ya'll figure out a way to do therapy either separately at first and together later, or completely separate. It sounds to me like he has some issues that have nothing to do with you or the marriage that he needs to resolve on his own and couples therapy wont help that. I think therapy would be good for you too, even if its just to work out some of these things that are bothering you with your relationship with DH. I honestly dont think things will change much with him in the house if all this time he is just giving mixed messages, if he was serious about it, he would change immediately..or at least show a huge effort in trying to change. I hope I am wrong and that he is really trying and things will get better though. THank you for posting here with everything, I think it helps some of us, me included, to realize the things we take for granted in our lives and that we arent the only ones who suffer too.
Love you
Rebekah