Can your pdoc be wrong about your

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Can your pdoc be wrong about your
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 10:05am

dx despite the fact that you get better on the meds?

h seems to think that if I went back to work or took more classes to get away from the kids I would just get better and be able to get off meds. How do I get him to understand? He seems to think it is just the boredom and stress of taking care of the kids all day. He does not understand that I LIKE taking care of the kids all day on most days. Yes, I get bored during the winter but we are coming into the time of year that I love being a SAHM. All the school events, soccer etc. they keep me busy, which I love.

In the meantime, I REFUSE to go off my meds. I would be so bad so quick at this point in my life with the stress of him right now. I know I am stable and managing the best I can right now and will not put that at risk.

How do I educate him?

Missy

 
 
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 10:14am

Hey Missy!!

No, in most cases, pdocs are not wrong about dx's...in most cases. Sometimes it CAN happen. However, the KEY here is that you ARE better on your meds. So, that should tell him something. We, as BPs, 9 times out of 10, will start feeling better and want to go off our meds...because we feel fine again...even those around us think there isn't anything wrong with us. Whenyou reach that point, you know you're on the right meds and don't you dare go off...because you said it just right...you will fall so fast, so hard, you won't even see it coming.

Do you have a NAMI group in your area? Will he be willing to take the F2F class? Its Family to Family. They talk more about living with us as BPs.

He has to educate himself. If he isn't willing to read a book, research the net, listen to you talk about it...then he just isn't and he won't.

You can't just "go to work, or school" and get better. Look at me. I work, and it didn't happen that way for me. Wish it did. It takes years of finding the right meds, takes therapy, takes daily, hard work...its not as easy as he would like for it to be. Tell him to live it for a day and he would know that. Sorry, I just get angry with men who think its so easy to just live with.

Hang in there. I know how it feels. Just had a huge fight with my dh too...sucks.

You do what you have to to STAY STABLE! Didn't it take a very long time to get here? Can't you see your H making that crumble in an instant? I can too. We can't let that happen. If you ever want to talk, let me know.

Hugs,

Keli

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:15pm

Uh, not really.

Your DH is a fool, seriously. It's like saying "oh, you're taking insulin and now you feel better, so you should stop taking it b/c you're not really diabetic".

Explain to him that bp is a physical disorder caused by misfiring synapses and neurotransmitter imbalances in the brain, and there is no "outside" cause. And that the medication just re-balances things and calms down the misfiring synapses.

Men like techincal explanations.




Edited 4/6/2006 1:18 pm ET by ladybugandbutterfly