help i need advice quick(triggers?)
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help i need advice quick(triggers?)
| Wed, 04-12-2006 - 6:33pm |
Hey guys well here is my situation, i need to know what to do when my best friend gets here tomorrow,(heres the back ground she left a few months ago in the middle of the night in a full blown manic state which she is still in and went to a whole other state way on the other side of the country we didnt here form her for a very long time and i was scared to death that the worst thing that could happen to her had happended) cut to the present we are in almost daily contact but she is still going strong and there doesnt seem to be an end insight, well she called to day and said that she will be here tomorrow this came out of the blue like it was something that was just decided and then acted on she isnt comming home for good because she has set up a life there she says but she needs things from here,(she has a house here) i know that she is in need of money and i think that she might be thinking of not only asking for it but selling things out of her home to get it i know that she has spent over 10,000 in the past few months as in 3 months and i know that she will regreat selling her things when she comes down, but as her friend i dont know what i should do. im really excited to see her and all but i dont want to see her do things that she will feel bad for later and i dont want her to look at me and ask why i stood by and watched while she sold away her home. i know that i could never understand what its like to be manic, but i do need to know how to protect someone who is. i lover her so very much and i dont know what to do to help her.

hey honey...there is not one thing you can do...but love her unconditionally...if she wants and needs to sell her things, you must step back and watch her do it...if you butt in right now, and she is manic, and she really does need money for whatever reason, you will lose your friend. let her talk to you!!! she will, if she can, and feels up to it. she may not, so don't feel bad if she doesn't.
just be yourself...treat her as you would have normally...and enjoy her visit!
love and hugs,
Keli