Dh confirmed that he does not see a

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Dh confirmed that he does not see a
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 7:27am

point to counseling. So, I asked him to leave and move into his moms. HE REFUSED. Now what can I do?

Missy

 
 
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 8:10am
pack up the kids and move to your moms house !!!
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 8:19am

I'm so sorry Missy...I know SO how you feel...my H won't go to counseling either...and right now, he won't make any changes for me either...sucks, doesn't it.

Go to your mom's...I agree.

Love you honey.

k.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 4:10pm

Please check you voice mail hon.

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Fri, 04-21-2006 - 4:26pm

i'm so sorry to hear that he doesn't want to go.....but hopefully he will change his tune once you move to your mom's....i agree with the others do that for your sanity.....your life will change for the better...

My situation was a little different...When I moved out of our home with our kids I told H he could move in also (we were living with his parents in a two-family for 5 years ughhh)

well, he moved in about one month later and things have worked out for us so much better....although my H has always been cooperative about counseling...

good luck missy ((hugs))

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 5:27pm

missy i agree with what everyone here has said. moving into your mom's house sounds like a good way to go. BUT, before you do that check with a lawyer to make sure h can't come after you for desertion/child abduction. laws vary from state to state so please make sure of this before you make any moves. i'd hate to see this backfire on you and have you wind up being hurt more by him and his antics.


my ex didn't see the point in counseling either because *i* was the one with the problems. he finally agreed to it when he couldn't get me to agree on a child support amount without consulting a lawyer first. but he didn't go to better the marriage - he went to protect his checkbook. i tell you, i married a real prince.......NOT.


anyway, that's my .02. i hope things work out for you and your children. you deserve some peace and serenity.


hugs,


traci

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Sun, 04-23-2006 - 3:18pm

Missy,


Traci has an excellent idea about checking with a lawyer!