Will no longer post here

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Will no longer post here
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 4:38pm

Sorry, I'm not sure who felt compelled to report my advice post b/c I included a word that is considered profanity (another word for a donkey). I subbed symbols for letters, but apparently I still got tattled on.

I don't feel comfortable participating in a board that does such things.

For the record, I've used that exact phrase/substitution on other ivillage boards with no problems.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 4:52pm
omgoodness...i've subbed worse words than that in symbols!
i cannot imagine who did such a thing & i can imagine how you must feel...
please reconsider.maybe it was a lurker with a bee up her...well,you know what.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 5:13pm

I don't know. I'm really upset about this. My whole post was deleted; not just the offensive word.

I don't like feeling like I have to censor my every thought.

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Registered: 04-06-2005
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 8:48pm

I'm not sure who did either...sometimes no one has to, the community leaders see it.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 12:53am

I'm sorry, I'm not sure how that got reported...I can definitely understand how you feel. But I do know that you've already become a great and valuable member of this board, so I would be sad to see you go over this. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you and your little girl luck...you are both such strong people, and you've made it through so much.

Hope to see you again,

Rose

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 7:48am

IVillage community moderators read through the posts too...to see who is using what language, etc. They probably did it themselves. We don't do that around here.

Sorry.

Keli

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 8:25am

Well, I give the board the benefit of the doubt and assume that someone off board got their panties in a wad, but I still feel really uncomfortable knowing that people are censoring us to that degree.

A chance to just go back and edit the post would have been appreciated, y'know? Now it's gone, and I can't put it back.

Ivillage has done some other stuff to good friends of mine on other boards, and frankly, the management sucks eggs, but the membership is good.

I'm a bit torn now on what to do. I'll have to think about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 3:25pm
Hi! I'm sorry that you had this happen. I agree with you. I've had one of my posts deleted, too. Then the next day I saw language "worse" than what I used on another person's post and nothing happened to their post. I guess it was (bad) luck of the draw with the moderators (not the cl's - please don't mix those up). We have great CL's here who would never berate or punish a person for their thoughts, as long as those thoughts didn't attack another person. It doesn't sound like that's what your post was doing at all. Please stick around! Lately I've been joking somewhat bitterly that these iVillage boards will cure me of my swearing. No matter how you say things, we enjoy having you around, so please don't go!

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Registered: 04-11-2006
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 4:00pm
I don't know dear. But please stay. Everyone is important and we need each other. Sunny
 
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 5:36pm

i agree with everyone else here. it is very frustrating to have a post deleted. i, too, have seen language "worse" than your substitution for the word donkey and they haven't been deleted. i think whoever suggested a moderator may have happened upon the post may have been accurate. i understand your frustration because it is like they are censoring our thoughts, however, at the same time there are people who are offended by colorful language and the moderators have to find and maintain a balance. does it suck? yeah, it does. but please don't let this force you to leave the board. this board survives as a result of its members. we provide each other with our experience, strength and hope to get each other through the rough times. each member of this board plays an important role in that. i hope you stay on.


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traci

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 6:28pm

I am sorry about your post getting deleted. It sucks when you can't voice your opinion. And you feel sensored. I hope you won't leave. It seems we all feel the same.

 
 
 
 

 
 

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