Quick update on the situation here......
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Quick update on the situation here......
| Mon, 04-24-2006 - 10:18am |
H has finally made up his mind. He is moving out on Friday. (He is at the fire station until then) I am telling the boys tonight. He will not be doing any more counseling. I am so scared and feel so alone right now. Even though I hate him so much right now, he was my best friend since high school, what am I supposed to do now. I have no job. I don't know what I am going to do. He won't let me move to my parents. I can't afford to stay in our house. I can't stop crying.
Missy


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missy - don't worry about not being able to be supportive right now. let us support you.
as for josh emailing you and not speaking to you on the phone...there is probably a reason for this. my ex used email against me during our divorce simply because he'd send me emails that called my parenting skills into question, and just generally made me look bad. but they were usually in response to emails i sent him, which i neglected to save and/or print out. this is where i made my mistake. if he wants to communicate by email then by all means do so but PRINT EVERYTHING!
as for rallying your pdoc and tdoc that is a very wise move on your part. be open and up front about the bipolar and get them to testify if it comes down to it. i didn't use my docs at the time because they told me they'd have to testify to some things i didn't want coming out in court for fear of losing my kids. if i had had the tdoc i have now i would have had her testify in a heartbeat and she's heard a lot worse stuff than my old tdocs ever did.
hang in there. i'm glad to hear your family is coming in to help you out. and you are right about not doing anything with the house until you meet with the lawyer. as for the support, i agree with marci. get a temporary custody/support order filed asap and have the support deducted through his employer so he can't jerk you around. if you give him the opportunity, he will surely do it. you sound like you're doing just fine in getting things done. i know it hurts but you're really doing a good job right now.
marci has given you some good advice re: the food banks and what not. and she's right, do NOT feel guilty about going to these places. people in your situation are why these organizations were founded. and remember we are here for you.
hugs,
traci
don't worry about anyone but yourself and those boys right now.
i'm glad your mom/gramma is driving out, hope they are there today.
I agree with Traci...girl print those emails out...and really, you can use that against him...that he is not readily available to speak to you regarding the boys..sounds bad, but oh well.
God could not be everywhere, so
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