OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 8:46pm

Does my senile old father think somtimes? I got up to let my boys out that was at about 7:30pm My head was still hurting and I am working my way into a depressive state. my dad just finished eating left overs and I saw that he finished off the pie I bough a day ago.(and thats ok I didnt want any pie and I never even had a slice of either) So then he says to me I finished of the pie since you need to watch you weigh. I just wanted to fall to my knees and cry. Don't people think any more? Dont they think about what comes out of their mouths befroe they speak and how it will affect the person it is directed too? He is 71 and still thinks that its the 50's, where the woman of the house wears a big dress, panythose, heels and full makeup to cook dinner. To be seen and not heard. I am a size 10, I am not 32 or something. This comes on the heals of him making the comment to me about a week ago that I need to lose 50lbs and it is good to see me start walking.(thats was the begining of my manic stage last week) It just seems today that I just cant catch a break. Days like this, I just wish I could go to bed and never wake up.

Jo

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Registered: 03-12-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 9:43pm

so sorry that he doesn't think.....family seems to do that *grrr*
wonder what he thinks of my size 14/16

I hope you have a good night and a better day tomorrow (hugs)

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 10:51pm
i know how you feel...i wrote a post a few days ago how i woman i know sat down & said "you gained alot of weight"as if i didn't know it.
people are stupid.
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Registered: 04-06-2005
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 8:32am

for some reason, fathers do this...mine does the same thing.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 8:32am

Jo-

Remember, only we give other people's words the power to hurt us.

Clearly, your father has reached that age where his mouth engages before his brain. It happens. Hell, he may not even be talking about YOU, just someone he thinks you are (he may have you confused with some fat chick he knew 40 years ago, y'know?).

It seems he thought he was doing you a favor (whatever, right?), so next time, just take a deep breath and say "thanks for thinking of my health, Dad."

And hide the pie from now on.

Who knows if your Dad had an underlying motive or was genuinely being an arsehat (think that one will set off the filters, lol?)?

I find it's alot easier to go through life thinking the best of people, even though my natural inclination is to think that everyone is making fun of me, being mean and are jerks.

I spent waaay too much time worried about what other people were thinking when I thought that way.

Now, while I may be completely deluding myself sometimes as to the jerk-quotient of some people, at least *I'm* happier.

So, assume your Dad wasn't being a jerk on purpose, buy more pie and just let this one go.

For a bitty revenge, make diet food for the rest of the week so he has to eat diet leftovers. You know, for your "weight problem", lol.

Who, me? Passive-aggressive? No - never!

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 8:35am
People need to think b4 they talk. Some people don't care whose feelings get hurt.