Just frustrated

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Registered: 12-12-2005
Just frustrated
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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 1:36pm
I have come to figure out that one of my biggest triggers is my dad. Blees him I do love him but he is very difficult to live with. My dh is only home for weekends, fri night at 9pm to about sunday 3pm. And since he is a project manager and we are in the last half of remodeling our house my dad feel that DH should would the whole time he is home. And boy do I hear about it all week long if Dh hasn't done any work n the house. I don understand that Dh needs to do somethings around here. But why cant dad give him a break. Dad wants things done now and dads way. And I am over it. My dad is old and forgetting things, I dont want him to be alone, but I don't want to start to resent him. Poor dh was crying last night that he wants a job at home, as he has been on the road for 5 yrs now. And my dad just doesnt get it. But where we are at the is crap for jobs. I just dont know what to do, think or fell any more. Oh god help me.
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Registered: 12-12-2005
In reply to: lil_lou
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 2:30pm

Well Its official I am a basket case..lmao I am balling..... Dad just left to go to a polka festivel and didn't say crap to DH. It doesnt help that both of them have no paatients. Dh is currently working on the bathroom trim as we speak. And keep in min when he is donw he still has a 5 hr drive to NYC. But that doesnt matter say my dad.

Anyway..... I just went into the bath room and told him I think we should move back to FL. He wont have to worry about dad putting so much on him when he is home and then maybe he could find a job there and be home everynight. He said not to worry he is just aggrivated and things will be just fine. He doesnt want to move back to fl. We have been her in PA for 2 yrs now and love it here. I have just having a hard time keeping the peace and keep my self sane too. But it is my nature to be the peace maker and worry about everyone else first, rather then my self. I am cursed for being a libra...lol

I am just finding my self getting angryer everyday at my father and I know its not right...but is it just me or do BP's have a hard time over looking things and letting things go? Do most of you dwel on thngs and re-hash them in your mind, over and over and over? I am doing that so much that most of the time I can't even sit at the dinner table and eat dinner with dad. God I fee like such a bad person.

how do people become like the familys that you see on tv that their parents live with them or they live with inlaws? I have read about people in my situation in magizines and they make it sound so nice and wonderful. What is wron with us that it cant be like that?

On one positive note. Dh heard form his HR department last night and my insurance went thru. If it is not in the computer by 5/1 any thing that I have to use it for will be made retro active so next week I will be on the phone making an appointment with my old pdoc who I havent sen in a yr. I figure I will have to wait a few weeks but hopefully it wont be to long.

Jo

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Registered: 12-12-2005
In reply to: lil_lou
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 5:07pm

Well I am crying again. Dh left about 1/2 hr ago to go back to NYC to work. He has only been gone about 30 min now and I already miss him so much. Don't get me wrong...I am so thankful that Dh is willing to forgo being home in his own bed, missing out on dinner everynight, time with his wife, fishing and all those good things, just to make sure we have money, the bills are paid(most of the time..lol) and we can afford the lil extras. But he is tired of being on the road and tired of missing me and me missing him. But what are we to do? The work around here is crap and would probably pay $8 and hour, if we are lucky. Dh is currently making $28. So our bill reflect that. We couldnt make it if he quit. I guess there is stress either way you go. the on egood thing is that I do have the house to myself for a bit. Dear ole dad is still out. So It makes it a bit easier for me to be a total basket case...

I know I have posted a few posts today, but I have no where else to turn. Who was it who said in one of the other posts that we ALL needed to get together and have a girls night out? Well count me in. What state do we meet in.....LMAO

Huggs,
Jo

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Registered: 04-06-2005
In reply to: lil_lou
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 11:38am

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time....how are you today?


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