Just thought I would let you all know
Find a Conversation
| Tue, 05-02-2006 - 3:37pm |
how I am doing.
I saw the attorney on Friday. I have not hired him yet, as I was going to let h file first. h has his appointment with a different attorney this friday. I don't think he can afford to file and my attorney said he will be shocked by how much he will have to pay me. His words were that he would have a very bad day when he meets with his attorney. Since I can not secure custody of the kids until one of us files, I have decided to file on Monday if he does not. I love my mom so much, as she is loaning me the money to hire the attorney so that I do not lose my kids. She is helping me with everything right now.
The kids are doing remarkably well. H has hardly been around at all. He calls most days for them and they have not wanted to talk to him. He has now forcing them to talk to him, LOL. He did come to ds birthday party on Saturday. It was awkward but we both behaved. I thought he would never leave.
I am now pretty sure he has dug us deep into financial debt. Everything was paid off a year ago when he took over finances and we moved into this house. I told him he was buying too much house, too much of his car but he took care of finances and I told him I trusted him. What a mistake. I know I bought stuff, but he kept saying it was fine. I am very upset about this. Not that there is anything I can do now.
Oh well, just wanted to quickly update you all.
Thanks for all the support on and off the board.
Missy


Missy I'm glad your mom is able to help you out with the lawyer. It sounds like you found a good one. If H doesn't file, which from what you said it sounds like he won't, make sure you get started on Monday.
If the marital debt is really bad, look into credit counseling. It is an awesome alternative to filing bankruptcy. My ex wanted to file but I refused and went through the credit counseling. My credit is now a lot better than it was 5 years ago and I don't have bankruptcy on my report. Just a thought. I know it's early in the game, but just tuck it away in the back of your mind.
and remember we're here to support you as well.
Hugs,
Traci
Missy!!!! Hey honey...I hope today finds you with a bit more peace, and a lot more strength to fight...its sucks, yes...but its all we can do...fight for our own peace of mind...our own inner strength...my h told me yesterday i have to focus on what i can change and control...so he should be very careful what he asks for. ;)
We're going to be just fine, girl...they're the ones who've messed up, and missed out on US, and they will regret that decision, I promise you that.
I'm glad your mom is there with you.
I'm so tired of crying, that today I'm going to stop. I'm wasting my LIFE and my TEARS and my strength on this man who i love, but who obvisously has made his own choice. So be it.
I love you,
Keli