How about a discussion question?

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How about a discussion question?
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:35pm

I thought I would throw a question out here and see what you all have to offer from your own experiences.


When you are in a rage how do you deal with it? Do you have certain techniques to help you through it?


I'm interested to hear what you all think:)


Traci

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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 1:14am
funny you should ask that.it happened tonite.i screamed & basically could not care less what a jerk i was untill i ran out of steam.it took a good long time.& i was in a car so there was no escape.a policeman heard me yelling...noticed my h wasn't wearing a seatbelt & well.....you can guess the rest,
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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 7:46am

same with me basically...i scream and yell and act like a jerk until I run out of steam...then cry like a baby because I have been a jerk...then feel stupid because of the whole mess...that's a LITTLE rage...the big ones...i throw things across the room, etc. I have only hit my xh (havent' gotten used to that YET) once or twice...its not acceptable in any way form or fashion...

Meds are the only control over it I have...Ativan works for me, but it takes about 15-20 minutes to kick in. Antipsychotics work for constant control, but I don't have rages constantly.

I don't usually have a rage unless I'm provoked into them, like lately...I feel one coming on, but I'm trying very hard to control it...its when I feel I'm being ignored, neglected, abandoned, etc. And those are FEELINGS that I can control and change. I am NOT those feelings, and I have to learn to deal with them now.

XH is entitled to his own life without me in it. He is a grown up and I've been told that so am I.

Its a learning process, I think, maybe. The raging is part of BP. Part of us. But a part we MUST control if we are to live in society.

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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 8:14am
I yell and scream til I'm out of steam. Sometimes I have to remind myself not to hurt anybody, I'll hit the kitchen counter with my fist or a door.

 
 
 
 

 
 
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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 8:50am

count me in...I scream, swear, throw things, hit things (sometimes people, yes its bad)...depending on the situation depends on how long it lasts for.

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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 9:06am

I guess I was never tought any way to dael with it. I will say a few snippy and nasty remarks then turn inward and dont talk to any one. I clean alot then got to my room and cry and go to bed. I know I should get it out but for some reson I just totally shut down, like emotional overload. Good day all.

Jo

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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 9:20am

I get in a rage when i am being attacked in someway. If i feel devaled and direspected I get angry because I was hurt first. The pain is followed by anger in a lot of situations. I cus, scream, slam doors and on occasion want to hit someone. I am working with my tdoc on this very thing at this very time. How to control getting out of hand and learning to walk away when the situation looks like it will go too far. Easier said then done, but I will try. I don't want to fight or agrue with Billy to the degree it makes me feel bad about who I am, so I will try to learn to realize HE isn't worth it and I deserve to have control. Yesterday, my dd called me. She has tickets to a concert that she paid for 2 months ago. She has a ride planned and they copped out on her. She calls me...I can't take her but I can pick her up, after anxiety and frustration we found out that my neice could take her. Alright, my point, I asked Billy if he would go with me because it will be late and dark. He acted like a butthead. Throwing a little verbal tantrum. I didn't start a big fight, I just said you

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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 9:33am

Over the years I've hit things - walls are a personal favorite; yelled and screamed and walked out of many rooms - well, stormed out is a better way of putting it.


My tdoc did a guided visual imagery with me once about 2 years ago and I was amazed at how much that calmed me down. The only problem is I don't know how to get "there" on my own. I think I need more "lessons."


I asked this question because I feel a rage brewing. I'm taking people's heads off for absolutely no reason. I almost cleared a shelf in the grocery store last night because they were out of something. These are good signs that a rage is soon to follow. With the upcoming court battle with xh I have got to get this rage under control and managed otherwise it could backfire on me in a bad way.


So, I thank you all for your input. It sounds as though we all deal similarly yet we each have slightly different methods.


Hugs,
Traci

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Thu, 05-04-2006 - 1:56pm
How I acted untill the past year was Scream or cry. But, this past three
months, I made a promise to not let My Bipolar decide what and where I go or what I do.
{I am Buddhist} So whether I am starting into mania or depression, I go to my alter and
let it all out. I never hit. I just will not do that. I treasure my marriage and love
too much for that. But, if I cry then I cry if I am angry I talk it out right there. Then I chant and pray till I feel better. If it takes me one half hour or ten. I come out when I am social again. My vow and my method are strong for me. Also I call my therapist and talk on the phone or the emergencie personnel people. Before, My husband could not go on the way I was. I was too explosive. He was ready to move out. I would rather be dead than live with out him. I realized that I was too explosive and I didn't want to live that way. I didn't like me that way. But, there was something that I could do about it. I don't have to give ito the mania. I call it policing my mind. I am stronger than the mania, if I use my faith to support me. Also I love so deeply that
it keeps me from hitting people or things.