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| Mon, 05-08-2006 - 8:12pm |
Well My insurance still isn't in the computer yet. Go figure so Dh's HR department is working on it. But there is bigger news now. Dh was offered a job working for a company the restors historic buildings on the national registry. He will be making more money, so thats good. He will travel 3wks then be home for 1wk. Thats do-able. But now I willhave to wait 90 more days for insurance cause we cant afford cobra...theres no way thats financial rape. So I figure I have been with out this long I guess I could go another 90 days. He is going to give his notice this friday. He has been with this company as a project manager for 5 yrs.
But the change is petrafying me!! I know change is not good for BP's and if it has to be done it is very hard. He keeps asking me what wrong and why am i worrying. I tell him I have nothing to worry about but I can't help it. This is a great opportunity for him and I did tell him that. He told me if this will stress me out too much and the change be to hard on me he will stay where he is at,so it wont off set my BP world too much. God blees him. He would rather stay at a job that he is nolonger happy at and pass up GREAT money just so I dont worry. As if I could help it...lol I told him it wont matter about my worrying cause I worry if is was to rain or not...lmao. The only thing is we have one car, thats all we have ever needed. Now he would need his own car when he goes to louisianna for this job. That would mean I would have to quit my 3 day a week job, which gets me out of the house. And I wont have a car of my own. I would have to ask my dad to borrow his when I needed to go some where.
But I cant let him know how MUCH it worries me. He would pass this offer up and not even tell me he was. Why is it so hard for me to just be happy for him, for us? I think the no car thing is what is really making me worry. Am I being selfish? I just dont know what to do or think? Should I just go with the flow, or as best as a BP can go with the flow...lol
Thanks all for listening to me ramble and not make any sense.
Jo

God could not be everywhere, so
Oh Donna, you made me laugh today which I needed... I live about 15 miles from town up in the mountains. I think If I had to bike I would die...LMFAO And right now there is no extra funds to spend on a junker not is the credit that great to get one. So we are kinda up in that air right now. Dh has a 98 f-150 that needs a new engine and is stting in the garage. I a thinking that if I can get thru a month or so with out a car maybe we can save enough with his new job to get a new engine. About $3000. Then things would go back to normal and he could have his own truck again. But I would hate to lose my lil parttime job at the book store. I do like the prople and there is really no stress. I go sell books and come home. I know we will have to discuss it more this weekend whenhe gets here. So may be we will come up with a solution.
I told him let rent him a car to get down there,cause he needs to take alot of tools with him. Then he canfly home on his week off. But he doesnt want to be in a stange place with a car, which I understand. I told him it would only be for about a month or so while we save for his truck. I told him it was an option. But if all else fails ans we cant come upi with anything I know I will give up my suv so he wont have to pass up this great opportunity. Marraige is a give an take and its all for a better job. Don't get me wrong he is not pressuring me one bit. I just feel guilty, cause i fell like a hinderance to him. I would be ok if dad didn't live with me. Cause I am a home bosy to begin with, but now being with him 24/7 thats a bit much....lol
I will keep you updated with this after we talk more about it this weekend. Thanks for you support.
Huggs,
jo
my new daily montra: It's nothaving what you want, it's wanting what you have.