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I am the devil
| Thu, 05-11-2006 - 1:28pm |
At least that is what Laura called me today. Twice,at my Tdoc appointment. An appointment that was 95% about her.
Just to give you all a little background. I have strep throat, and when Laura woke up, she said her throat was bothering her. So, I kept her out of school. Made her a appointment to see her doc.


sounds like my nicole and she will be 13 in a couple weeks....some times they say/think they do this for attention...even tho its the wrong attention, its still attention.
God could not be everywhere, so
Hi Donna,
How are you?
Yes, we have tried 1-2-3 magic. After a few weeks, it no longer worked with her. I liked the idea about a jar,and something to put in it. I will have to think about that one some.
We are doing ok despite it all. Just this issue with Laura is wearing me down.
Love ya,
have they looked into like...dang I can't think of the name of it now...its something difiant disorder.
I hope you find something soon that works...I'm sure she's missing her dad too...how old is she again?
I'm ok I guess....so many things going on..personally at least...work wise..well today is BORING.
God could not be everywhere, so
Hi Donna,
Yes, we have had her tested for ODD. Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
She can be very argumenative to people. It does seem to be towards me the most.
Rick gave me a quick call today to see how I was feeling,and I told him what the Tdoc said. He said get it done. I think she needs it. I know you need her to behave better. He said he feels so bad because he can't be here to help. He doesn't know the half of it. Simply because it would just make him mad, and make him feel
(((((((((((((((Cyn)))))))))))))) My 9 yo ds often refuses to do as he is told as well. I wish I had the answer......oh, do I wish, but all I can offer you is hugs and understanding. My biggest problem up until recently was follow--through. Once I finally learned how to do that grounding seemed to have an effect on him because I didn't back down. But it used to be my ex was the only one who could get him to listen and it used to set me off.
I wish you the best of luck with her and I hope things slow down a bit for you. You know we are always here for you.
Hugs,
Traci
Cyn:
Sorry to hear your little angel hasn't been lately. We have had a LOT of problems with my daughter this year with similar behavior and the best thing we have found so far is a reward system instead of a punishment system.
Everyday, she has NO privileges. No TV, no computer, nothing. However, if she brings all of her homework home, gets it all done, then she can pick ONE privilege. If the day was good, she gets a point. At the weekend, she can turn in points for other privileges - having a friend over, game night, going to a movie, etc. She also (because she is a money hungry bugger)can turn the points in for money.
On the flip side of it, there are points for certain behaviors on a different board. If she forgets to turn a light off or put an article of clothing in the hamper, it is a 5 cent point. If she doesn't shut the front door, it is a 50 cent point. There are about 8 things she gets "pay us" points for. Every other Friday, she has to pay US for the points she has. If she doesn't want to do anything "special" for the weekend, she can reduce the amount she owes us by however many good points she has.
For some reason, this works better then grounding (we follow through also) and taking away stuff and timing her out. She actually looks forward to counting up her points to see what she can do.
Good luck and make sure you are making SOME time for you - even if you just taking a long bubble bath once in a while.
Tracey
Thanks Traci,
I did some surfing last night,and found a couple of things that I will try.
Tracey also had some good ideas in her post to me. You want want to take a little peek. If I find something that works, I will pass it along.
Have a great day.
Hugs,
Tracey,
Those are some really good ideas. I copy, and pasted your post to Rick, and e-mailed it.
I will see what he says,and maybe tailor it to fit Laura, and see if it works. Thanks for the help.
Have a great day.
Hugs Cyn. How old is Laura? I am right there with you. I swear my 11 year old thinks I am the dumbest person alive. He knows everything and is so mouthy to me. It drives me crazy. I thought this was not supposed to start until the teen years. Does this mean we get this longer? God help us all, LOL. I wish I could offer you some good, sound advice, instead all I can do is offer you support. If you get some great ideas on how to cope with this, let me know though, LOL.
Missy
Hi Missy,
Laura is 7. She will be 8 in Aug.
She is a very mouthy child to say the least. I don't have that problem with Jackie.(Who is 10)