He's going to a meeting tonight !!!

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He's going to a meeting tonight !!!
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Fri, 05-12-2006 - 11:10am

Two steps foward; One step back.

This weekend was one step back (maybe two), had therapist on the phone, Sunday, Monday and Tuesday.

END RESULT ....

H is going to a Dual Diagnosis meeting tonight. His choice. Realizes now how bad the alcohol effects him. He has no memory of Sat-Tue even though he didn't drink that whole time. I do think he heard me on the phone with his therapist when I said, 'I told H this before, I'm not sure if he remembers or not but I don't want to remind him, as I don't want it looming over his head, but I'm giving him 1 year, April of 2007, to decide if this is going to work.'

...this is after his IC told me statistically he'll never recover as long as he abuses. I know this. But I also realize I cannot force H into anything. It MUST be HIS decision. Sure I'll help guide when I can (or make strong suggestions) and support when he decides. It is my decision to stay a year & I'm comforteable with that ... except on the weak days I want out immediately.

Things are still getting better. One year is short, may seem long now, but it really is short.

Bonnie




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Fri, 05-12-2006 - 5:14pm

(((((((Bonnie))))))) I'm glad to hear h is going to a DDx meeting. With any luck, this will be the beginning of the road to recovery. Have you looked into Alanon? That is also very helpful for family members/friends affected by someone's drinking. If you'd like more information on that e-mail me at tldalton122103@yahoo.com and I'll be happy to help you with that.


Yes, a year sounds long, but you are right when you say it really is short. It sounds as though you are on the right track though. It will be a hard road, but hopefully it will work out the way you would like it to. Hang in there and keep posting:)


Hugs,
Traci