mother's day blues

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Registered: 12-12-2005
mother's day blues
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Sun, 05-14-2006 - 10:36am

To all you mother's out there I wish you a GREAT one. Mine on the other hand has been less then gratifying. Well I am not a real monther, I am a stepmom and mother to the boys (peanut & buster). And today I got nothing, nada, zip, zilch. No card, not happy MD, not evena mention. I guess it reall shouldn't bother me, I mean after all I am a generic mom. BUt may be its so hard cause I dont have mine. She dies when I was 18, hard to believe that it will be 14 yrs this june. Am i being selfish, just thinkin gof my self? Or is my BP acting up and I am using the whole mothers day thing an excuse? I dont know. Well I have started to cry and I am gonna go and finish and get it out of my system. Again HAPPY MOTHER"S DAY TO YOU ALL.

Huggs,
jo

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Sun, 05-14-2006 - 11:00am

(((((((((((((((((((((((Jo)))))))))))))))))))))))))) I don't think you are being selfish at all. My ex's kids would sometimes wish me a happy MD and other times not. Kids can be funny that way, but it doesn't

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Sun, 05-14-2006 - 11:48am

If it helps, you are not alone. I have the mothers days blues too. My h dropped off flowers for the boys to give me this morning. That had me bawling. My mom and grandmom are back in MA enjoying a nice dinner together tonight. All my friends (the few of them) are enjoying the day with thier moms or MIL and thier spouses and kids. I just feel lonely. Normally I would be complaining that I would spend today cooking for my MIL but at least I would be included in a family. Even with the kids, I have felt terribly lonely all weekend. I just don't know what to do. I have spent a lot of time just laying on the couch and crying. I hate it. I know it is not good for the kids. They are being so good.

A friend and her kids are meeting me and the boys for lunch in a little bit and I don't even want to go. How terrible is that? Her dh is working the day shift and her mom is out with her brother so she had lunch time open. I hope I can get out of this horrible funk I am in to at least enjoy lunch a little.

Hugs.

Missy

 
 
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Registered: 12-12-2005
Sun, 05-14-2006 - 12:33pm

It's not that my stepson forgot me, it normal cause of his mom and all. It's DH....he always gets me something and a card that is at least from him and the boys. But nothng this yr... nothing at all. I finally confronted him about it, cause he saw me crying. But it didnt really matter what he said. Just the fact that he forgot and forgot me was enought to just give up. I take care of his family on all occasions, the house all the bills. Just because I cant actually ever give physical birth, does that make me not a mother at all?

Well I feel horrible today and I think it will be a huge effort to even try to shake this feeling.

Huggs,
jo

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Registered: 04-06-2005
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 9:23am

Just because I cant actually ever give physical birth, does that make me not a mother at all?


no it does not mean you are not a mother....some of the best mothers never actually gave birth !!!


I'm sorry dh forgot you and you are right, it doesn't really matter what he says, its just the point of it.

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 1:08pm
I'm sorry that your Mother's Day stunk. I can relate somewhat... My DH left my a card with a chocolate candy taped to it, and that was all. He never actually said "Happy Mother's Day", he didn't otherwise recognize that it was not an ordinary day. Hearing about how great other moms' day was seriously rubs it in. You are not alone. I am sorry you were not recognized. I hope he makes up for it.