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| Fri, 05-19-2006 - 4:41pm |
I signed the dissolution of marriage form today at my attorneys office. It should be filed on Monday, along with temporary relief paperwork. H and I had been getting along most of the week, but it all went in the crapper today when I told him I went to the attorney and tried to warn him that he would be served early next week. So much for being nice. He also took the boys for his first overnight visit with them tonight, so I am sad about that. But I am trying to look on the bright side, I planned a girls night out with my sisters and I get them back first thing in the morning at soccer, except for Kyle who has to go back with Josh to be in BIL's wedding, which I am going to bring the little boys to. So I will still be seeing Kyle a lot tommorrow so it won't be too bad. H still has not hired an attorney, says he can not afford one. Has threatened that I won't be getting anymore money until he hires one. (But can't see why I want to protect myself and the kids with temporary relief paperwork, duh.)
All in all, it is a sad day here with the paperwork signed and the kids gone. I am trying to get in a better mood to go out to dinner with my sisters but I wanted to let you all know I was still alive and kicking.
Missy


Girl...you just took the first step...the hardest step.
God could not be everywhere, so
Missy,
Try to kick back and relax while you've got a temporary break from the kids, although I know it's gonna be rough at first.
Good for you for taking the first step and especially for going after the temporary order--don't let him try to sweet talk you out of it!
((((((((Missy))))))) I totally agree with what Donna and Marci have said. I hope you were able to enjoy your girls night out last night and that you enjoyed the wedding.
Don't back down on the temporary relief and if he gets mad that's his problem. He left you and it doesn't matter if he has an attorney or not a judge will award you temporary relief until the divorce settlement happens.
My ex has been sickeningly nice to me lately I'm sure in hopes that I'll back off of the pursuit of an increase in child support and to pay for his share of dd's braces and back support. He's doing this because he knows a judge is going (hopefully) to rule in my favor. My point is don't get sucked in to his niceness.
And you will come to enjoy and anticipate the weekends when the kids are with their dad. I have to leave the kids with my mother if I want a weekend away and I'm the one who has to leave, not the kids. But their dad hasn't taken them for a weekend in close to 2 years. And even when he was taking them, he was only taking the younger two leaving my oldest home with me. Yes, my ex is a piece of work.
Anyway, I hope you did ok last night on your own and I hope that you had a good day today. And, congrats on signing the paper. That was a huge step! Keep the momentum going and don't back down. If you need support, you know we're here for you.
Hugs,
Traci
Yup, the temporary order says he will need to come up with the money to pay for my attorney too since I had to get a loan from my mom to pay for it. Of course, he has no idea at this point that it says that.
I really hope you get to come to the area. Let me know and we can plan a little get together.
Missy