Positive Things

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Positive Things
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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 11:00am

Okay...I'm being a big ole whiny baby here and I need a reality check. So, I'm listing all the positive things in my life that have happened recently and that I have to be thankful for...so I can stop being a big ole whiny baby and GET ON WITH IT already. God.

1. I have come a long way in a month.
2. My ex h and I are remaining friends and are learning new ways to communicate with each other, and I am learning things about myself every day. This is VERY important to me.
3. My ex is finally returning the favor so to speak and is being there for me in ways he wasn't before, that I never really FULLY realized.
4. I got a new place, that will be a brand new start for me.
5. I have begun a new life - which in and of itself is really positive and for me, a HUGE big deal. I am proud of myself for this. I was not destroyed. Nobody can destroy me without my permission. Life is a continual growing process and only I have the power to move forward, or stay behind and wallow. I choose not. I will always LEARN during this process, but life is only about LESSONS learned, not mistakes made.
6. This learning process didn't begin until I was ready for it, though I didn't think so at the time. But I was. Completely, from all angles. I have a car that is reliable, and I didn't before. My bills are pretty much caught up, and I could do this. My son is ready to start a new school, so I didn't have that hassle. My BP was pretty much stable. Life KNOWS when we are ready to move on, even when we think we are not. Even when these "lessons" feel horrible, it doesn't mean that good isn't at the root of the lesson. A new door will open for me. But I have to ALLOW myself to be ready for it. If I wallow in misery, and pain, and never move forward, then I miss out on the growth potential that is there, waiting for me.

These are some of the things that are positive for me right now. I also have my son, who has "stepped up" as he puts it...from time to time. He still is a teenager though and makes me nuts at most every turn...but that is his job right now.

I'm thankful that I didn't let my anger and hurt turn to the extremes that it could have. That's never helpful.

Eric isn't perfect. He never will be. But I accept him for who he is, and I realize that HE TOO must go forward in his life...he too must grow and live. But we don't have to hate each other to do so. If we do, we miss out on other opportunities offered us as well.

Okay, just wanted to talk some of these things out...thanks for listening.

Keli

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: keli003
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 11:30am

Here's some from me:


1) Just back from the maternity ward tour--VERY nice digs, all are private labor/delivery rooms where you stay put unless there are complications (which is why I chose this hospital for DD's birth, except they weren't done when she was born, although they were supposed to have been done several months previous) with showers, CD/cassette players, tv with DVD/VHS in every room, plus they have a whirlpool which can be used during labor, although it's a shared one down the hall.

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Registered: 04-06-2005
In reply to: keli003
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 12:15pm
this is a great idea...just can't do it right now, sorry
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Registered: 05-22-2006
In reply to: keli003
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 4:34pm

This is the best post I have ever read - I loved it! I had to read it 3 times. Thanks for sharing it!!

Kelli





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Registered: 05-02-2006
In reply to: keli003
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 4:54pm

Jumping in late on this one...


I am thankful for my children even when they drive me insane;)


I am thankful for a great lawyer who is fighting for my children and seeing they get what they deserve.......NOT what xh feels like giving.


I am thankful for dd16's bio-dad. He came through in a big way when I needed financial help.


I am thankful for a great tdoc who still makes time to listen to me even though I can't pay her right now.


I am thankful for a great pdoc who I think has finally found the right meds. It's just waiting 'til I get up to the therapeutic dose to find out that's the nerve wracking part. But once that happens, she'll start pulling the depakote, zyprexa and topomax.


Thanks Keli for starting this:)


Hugs,
Traci