He just texted me so upset

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Registered: 02-02-2011
He just texted me so upset
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Thu, 03-03-2011 - 1:38pm
I was having such a good day, just finished my lunch and there goes my phone four words "you must be done" why now 17 days and now?

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 1:47pm

Like he doesn't know that already....of course you are done. He's fishing and it's up to you that his bait doesn't catch a thing. Why isn't he blocked on your cell phone?

I am seeing a pattern here lately that you newbies are not doing EVERYTHING possible to blocks these fishermen.

:(

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 02-02-2011
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 2:00pm
I can't block it or he would be
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Registered: 07-21-2009
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 2:16pm

Well, if you really can't block him then lets reframe this.

Good, he knows your done.

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Registered: 02-02-2011
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 2:17pm
Your right I had a cry and f him this isn't ruining my day
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 3:15pm
LFH. The same thing happened to me last night. My phone was in my purse. (what a concept), and I heard it vibrating as I walked by. I looked and it was from xAP. " what's up?" . I didn't respond. What a jack*** . How dare he creep into my evening with my H and kids? I was pretty pissed. I carried that anger into work with me today, to help keep me focused. I've seen him a few times, but didn't acknowledge him. Then at lunch a get a sweet text from H " Have the best possible day you can...you deserve it". Kinda helps to keep things in perspective. Hang in there...I'm right there with you.
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Registered: 02-02-2011
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 3:31pm
I'm ok now I think
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Registered: 01-28-2010
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 5:41pm

LFH, you and I are definitely in the same boat! What a rotten and unexpected twist this day took, huh? I'm glad you got the tears out of your system and were able to salvage the rest of your day as best you could. I've been slowly trying to shake my exAP's fishing attempt too.

You know what just makes me so mad? That we're forced to deal with this crap at work. Or when we're on dates with our SO/Hs. Or really just whenever, at JAM's whim. It's manipulative. It's just his way of waving his arms around and shouting, "hey, look at me! I'm still here! Pay attention to me!" And then we'll be sitting unassumingly at our desk (well, in my case anyway), trying to do our job, and then we get horribly, irrevocably sidetracked by these juvenile antics. Sorry, that turned into a huge rant! But I guess I just channeled my sadness earlier into anger over exAP's persistent mission to keep me on his string, on HIS calendar.

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Registered: 10-16-2010
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 5:51pm

Hi LFH

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Registered: 02-02-2011
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 6:04pm
Because my phone is issued from my husbands work they have control of the plan not me blocking a number is a pay service I can't add not to mention the questions that will come up if I ask I dont need to draw attention to it do I? Ditto for number change and honestly if xap is going to be persistant like in the past he will call house phone of just show up at the house blocking one avenue isn't going to be any help to me I have to have the strength within me to walk from his attempts.
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Registered: 09-28-2010
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 7:03pm
"You know what just makes me so mad? That we're forced to deal with this crap at work. Or when we're on dates with our SO/Hs. Or really just whenever, at JAM's whim. It's manipulative."

I know it seems this way, but remember how we behaved during the affair, the messages we sent about what was acceptable. Now that we are outta the fog we can see how screwed up it ALL is. Can't focus on being angry at "how dare they" not respect our boundaries, our partners etc .... isn't that what we were doing ALL along. NOT respecting our own families, their families etc ... introspection.

We were ALL manipulative - the good thing is that you're starting to recognize it for what it is, and not confusing it will love or care.

TU.

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