Arghhhhhh!!!! ...Poss. Trigs

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Arghhhhhh!!!! ...Poss. Trigs
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 6:00pm

I woke up this morning to find an e-mail from xh and it was basically what i figured he would eventually get around to doing. He was trying to make me look like the parent in the wrong because I don't have a job that was a 40 hours a week and that this was a "condition" of the support I received. The one thing I wanted so much to respond to him was that the child support he was paying to his older children was also a factor. But, I didn't even respond to the e-mail. I just forwarded it to my lawyer. But, it triggered bad behavior that I've been struggling against.


I just am spent dealing with him and his psychological abuse. I don't know how much longer I can take it.


Thanks for letting me get this out.


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Registered: 05-22-2006
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 8:21am
Congrats on your restraint in just forwarding the email to your lawyer! It's hell I know but there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there! Hugs, Kelli





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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 8:53am
this might sound really mean...but if you were expecting it all along, why are you letting it trigger things?
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 8:55am

Traci...i love you...you know I do...but I gotta say this...if you don't get a grip on this right NOW, you are going to end up in the hospital...you know that. yes, he is being an a-hole of the worst kind...but so what...let him. Let it go. There isn't a dang thing you can do about it for now...pride yourself in the fact that you are doing the BEST YOU CAN right now, by pursuing this in the legal system. Let him do what he will.

I know its hard, omg, do I ever. But you have to find a way to get it together. You are getting sicker because of him. And eventually its going to be "noticeable" to others. PLEASE try. I did the same thing. And finally I realized that it was do or die.

I hope you don't get upset with me. But I do care about you very much and I am looking in from the outside. I see what is about to happen. Don't let it.

Talk to me again so I'll know you are okay.

Love and Hugs,

Keli

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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 11:29am

Thanks Kelli. I'm trying to hold tight but it's not easy. I need this thing to be over. I'm just ready for this to be over. It's taking its toll on me both pysically and mentally.


Traci

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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 11:48am

Donna I hear what you're saying. And this may or may not make much sense. As, it doesn't make much sense to me but it's the best way I can explain it. While I said I've been expecting this, I think I have been kidding myself or lulling myself into a false sense of security and believing that he would "do the right thing" on his own in the end.


I'm trying to not let it trigger me, and it may not be what has triggered me. But maybe it has added to it.


Why I'm being triggered is beyond me. I wish I knew so I could stop. I don't like doing what I do. I can't put it any better than that.


Traci

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 12:03pm

Keli thank you.


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I forced (and yes, FORCED)

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Wed, 06-21-2006 - 4:36pm

Good for you for holding back and just forwarding the email to your attorney. Hugs in dealing with all the emotional issues. I am struggling with a lot of the same stuff. Feel free to email me anytime. mmflanders@comcast.net

Missy