Clearing out the trash

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Clearing out the trash
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Sun, 03-13-2011 - 9:41pm

Five minutes ago I accidentally deleted a work email, and went to my trash folder to retrieve it. And suddenly I was confronted by

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 10:09pm

Well, you certainly learned the lesson of not-reading the hard way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 10:34pm

Dee, you're right. It was a hard way to learn that lesson.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2010
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 10:59pm

((((Kat)))))

If you read between the lines, everything your XAP has accused you of screams out ME, ME, ME!!!

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Registered: 01-04-2010
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 11:29pm

Kat,

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 11:29pm

Thanks V888. Perhaps you're right, and some of his words are more about him than me. Maybe Michelle could send him

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Registered: 01-04-2010
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 11:37pm

i just responded to your first post, but when i saw this, i had to respond again. do we have the same xap? lol.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sun, 03-13-2011 - 11:41pm

Hi Exi, Thanks for your response and congratulations on your tweener status! I don't think we've met before but I've certainly read your story and been so encouraged by the steps that you and your H have taken to heal your M.

"Trying to resuscitate even after the body's gone cold." What a great description! And that's really how it feels. This A is dead and he's just desecrating it even further by kicking and prodding for signs of life.

He still has the power to hurt me and upset me, but there's not one single cell in my body that wanted to respond to his email. And that

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 12:03am

I just have to say, I love this place and all the people here! It would have been so easy for me to slide into

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 1:15am

Hey Kat

I really like reading your posts and experiences- you are inspirational to me for some reason. I really want you to see how f''ed up your exAP corpse-kicking is. Your posts are always deep and insightful, full of love and compassion.

Like everyone else here I think your exAP made his personality clear by attempting to pull yours down. Let him kick that big old cow and get angry at it for not responsing. You are doing this healing the right way! Totally internal, totally introspective and realistic- that is how we heal!!!

Iggyx

You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 1:38am

Gosh, thank you

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