Is this normal?
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Is this normal?
| Mon, 07-03-2006 - 1:51am |
Lately I feel ashamed because I have been thinking about my X, why, I don't know. I have been thinking about the good times and the things we liked together. Maybe it is from talking to him more and seeing him when I visit my dd. I think about him in "that" way too. How great we were there. I don't want him back, so why am i thinking of him like that? We have been seperated now for 10 years. We were together for 12 yrs. I have known him for 26 years. We started dating when we were 16.
I love B, I do, but i feel it is different then it was with X. I don't feel that deep down passion of love for B but I know I love him.

Tina ~ Sweetie, you are far from being nuts. And this who wants to cause extreme pain to my ex. Yes, there are going to be time when you will become nostalgic but the key is to keep it in its proper place...the past. As you said, you have known this man for over 20 years. You can't just shut off the feelings and the memories. I don't know if I'm helping or not, but please know that you are anything but crazy. You are experiencing feelings that you are entitled to to feel. That's what makes you the wonderful person that we all know know and love.
Hugs & Love
Traci
Thanks Traci-
I feel guilty feeling those feelings when I am commited to Billy. There are so many changes and things I am working on in my life and a lot of it is my past so maybe that has something to do with bringing up my old feelings for my ex. I have to admit the loss still tugs at my heart. But he's a jerk and I am better off without him.
Tina
PS- thanks for saying I am not crazy:)
~ Tina ~
No problem Tina:) We all question our thoughts and motives but I think you're right. If you are working through your past in therapy, then that is why you are thinking of ex now. If he was a jerk tell yourself that and let that become your mantra "He is a jerk. I am so much better" until you drive him from your mind.
You hang in there sweetie:)
Hugs & Love,
Traci
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