Sister committed last night

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Sister committed last night
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Sun, 07-09-2006 - 4:56pm

My sister was committed to the psychiatric ward last night. I don't think she's BP, I think she is BPD - but posting here b/c so many of you already know me. I hate this, I hate this so bad. I know she's locked up right now feeling so alone. Hating me, my older sister and her H for putting her there. Her H will not share the code needed to communicate with her & it frustrates me, but he needs to do what he's comfortable with & he's afraid if he does she'll follow through on her threat, change the code & not give it to him.

I know it's necessary, she was abusing her kids, even if she was not directly hitting them. I don't think she realizes the pain she's been causing them. My niece, 9 yrs, was starting to talk to anybody who would listen. She's crying for help & I'm very happy my BIL finally got the guts to follow through.

She has been turned into family services. Hopefully that will be enough for her to follow through on treatment. OMG I cannot even think of the pain of the threat of losing your children.

I just hate that this has to be. She's my baby sister, why can I not save her from this pain?

Sick & sad today.

Bonnie




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Sun, 07-09-2006 - 5:15pm

((((((((((((((((((((Bonnie))))))))))))))))))))) You are in a very difficult place right now, but are doing what is best for your sister. And, it is good that your BIL took action and put her in the hospital. If she had reached the point of physical and/or emotional abuse on her children something needed to be done.


I know the helpless feeling that accomponies situations like this. Just remember to take care of yourself and your family. Be there for your sister and BIL when they need you and let everything play out according to the "master plan." Remember that we are here for you as well.


This is a lot for you to take on, on top of what you have already had to deal with. And don't feel bad about posting because it's bpd and not bp. We don't care. You are part of our little family here and you can post about just about anything here. Don't forget that. K? Hang in there hon. Keep posting and keep us posted.


Hugs,
Traci

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Sun, 07-09-2006 - 9:18pm

I feel your pain. My sis also has BPD. It's hard for my family to face reality, but she seems to be abusing her kids, too. I live thousands of miles away from ground zero, so I stay out of it (quite willingly).

I think both your family and my family have a bumpy road ahead.

Express!
Beth "Petrouchka"

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Mon, 07-10-2006 - 1:34am

You have no idea of the bumps we're going to meet down the road & the more immediate curve in the road.

This is what I wrote on the families & mental illness on Friday:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-bhfamschiz&msg=2254.1&ctx=0

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MY MOTHER'S LIFE IS APPEARANCES. This is not something she is going to take well. Especially since my BIL told their bishop (since they are living in my mother's house it is the same bishop) of my sister's affairs.

Bonnie




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Mon, 07-10-2006 - 9:18am

((((((((((((((((BONNIE)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


I cant say I know what you are going thru so I wont pretend. But I just want to out stretch my heart and paryaers for what you and your sister and family are going thru. I know it seems the worst it can be, but hopefully they will give the treatment she despritaly needs. I wiol put you, your sis and famly in my prayers tonight. And post here any time. GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL. Keep us updated.


Huggs,


jo

Johanna


(and her fur-babies)


(Peanut & Buster)


IT'S NOT HAVING WHAT YOU WANT, IT'S WANTING WHAT YOU HAVE.


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Mon, 07-10-2006 - 11:03am

Hello Bonnie.

Hugs. I have both BPD and Bipolar. Its tough...very tough...but, it CAN be managed. It will most definitely be a bumpy road...but you have to know that you cannot help your sister...or rather, you can't save her. She has to get it in her head (and maybe this committment will do it) that she and only SHE can get better. If she hasn't yet, for her kids, then she is where she needs to be. You know that. I know its hard. God KNOWS i know its hard.

I fight my BPD every single day. I no longer act out. But I suffer from major major depressions due to life situations that I just don't handle well. I was sexually abused at 7, and it all stems from that. I have major issues to still deal with. But my son has been my very first priority his entire life. I may not be the best mom in the world...I probably let him get away with too much. But I am very proud of the fact that I never ever once acted out in front of him. Well, almost. He has not been affected be ME. That is of the utmost importance. I hope your sister will realize this and take what they offer her there to heart.

Keep posting. We're here for you.

Keli