Welcome to "IndifferenceVille." :smileywink: Maybe I should have Bodhi design a medal of recognition for this stage. :smileyhappy: Truthfully though, not many posters are actually around when they finally make this transition, so that says a lot about your loyalty and dedication to this board. I know you have been busy and reinvested back into your RL, but you still post in occasionally, and I find that admirable. You are giving back when you can, and Amiga, I love you for it.
I think it was around the end of my 2nd year out that I reached Indifference. Ironically, one really doesn't even know when they have crossed that bridge until one day they just "feel/act" differently. I guess that would explain the "In" part of the word "INdifference. :smileywink:
Here is a picture that expresses how I felt at indifference, and I hope it resonates with you.
"I am a honest person of intergrity. I am a lady. I am worthy. I can shine and do not need anyone else to "make" me shine." this line was particularly valuable to me; even though i am moving past my A, have achieved 6 months NC and am really engaging with my real life in the present, i really struggle with coming to terms with what i did and how it decimated my self esteem.
Oh my sister, what a wonderful email to read. I wanted to respond sooner, but my dog ate my computer cord so I have been reading on my phone and couldn't reply until now (:
I remember first coming to this board and reading your story. I remember thinking if THIS woman can get over THAT kinda crazy, then I had no choice to believe it was possible for me too. I have been so grateful to have been a part of your journey to indifference. You were there to support me off board many a time. You kept enough in front of me to help my journey be that much easier. Not too surprisingly then, we are now in the same phase of indifference. I read vet-ville soon, but I arrived at indifference a few months ago thanks to the amazing support of this board, and the incredible men and women who are relentless in their convictions, who never waiver from their truth, and who know the fundamental difference between REAL support, and the "harshness" that was the treatment we accepted during our affairs.
Your post should serve as a testament to the work that time and perseverance can do - you committed to your ending, and you stayed here to lend support to SO many long after your time with needing support was over. I personally would not be at the point I am at now, without you Luvin.
I wish you all the love & joy that you deserve - which is a crapload (:
Luvin i know you have been to the war and back, but look at where you are now, congratulations!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing, you are an inspiration to all of us who are at an earlier phase of this journey.
Your post not only gives us hope, it confirms how 15 months of reprogramming our thought processes, and subsequent actions, is guaranteed to bring us to a place of peace and integrity.
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Luvin-
What an awesome post!
((Luvin))
Welcome to "IndifferenceVille." :smileywink: Maybe I should have Bodhi design a medal of recognition for this stage. :smileyhappy: Truthfully though, not many posters are actually around when they finally make this transition, so that says a lot about your loyalty and dedication to this board. I know you have been busy and reinvested back into your RL, but you still post in occasionally, and I find that admirable. You are giving back when you can, and Amiga, I love you for it.
I think it was around the end of my 2nd year out that I reached Indifference. Ironically, one really doesn't even know when they have crossed that bridge until one day they just "feel/act" differently. I guess that would explain the "In" part of the word "INdifference. :smileywink:
Here is a picture that expresses how I felt at indifference, and I hope it resonates with you.
Ah, man.... this is beautiful.
Luvin,
congratulations, and thank you for this post.
"I am a honest person of intergrity. I am a lady. I am worthy. I can shine and do not need anyone else to "make" me shine." this line was particularly valuable to me; even though i am moving past my A, have achieved 6 months NC and am really engaging with my real life in the present, i really struggle with coming to terms with what i did and how it decimated my self esteem.
Luvin,
What a beautiful post!
Dear Luvin (:
Oh my sister, what a wonderful email to read. I wanted to respond sooner, but my dog ate my computer cord so I have been reading on my phone and couldn't reply until now (:
I remember first coming to this board and reading your story. I remember thinking if THIS woman can get over THAT kinda crazy, then I had no choice to believe it was possible for me too. I have been so grateful to have been a part of your journey to indifference. You were there to support me off board many a time. You kept enough in front of me to help my journey be that much easier. Not too surprisingly then, we are now in the same phase of indifference. I read vet-ville soon, but I arrived at indifference a few months ago thanks to the amazing support of this board, and the incredible men and women who are relentless in their convictions, who never waiver from their truth, and who know the fundamental difference between REAL support, and the "harshness" that was the treatment we accepted during our affairs.
Your post should serve as a testament to the work that time and perseverance can do - you committed to your ending, and you stayed here to lend support to SO many long after your time with needing support was over. I personally would not be at the point I am at now, without you Luvin.
I wish you all the love & joy that you deserve - which is a crapload (:
xo
TU.
great pic Iddy, thank you....that is a great feeling....
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
I'm so happy for you, and so excited to see you shining so brightly on your own.
Save a seat for me in indifferenceville - I'm planning on meeting you there one day come hell or highwater.
Sunshine and smiles
Kat.
Luvin,
Excellent work, my dear.
Luvin i know you have been to the war and back, but look at where you are now, congratulations!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing, you are an inspiration to all of us who are at an earlier phase of this journey.
Your post not only gives us hope, it confirms how 15 months of reprogramming our thought processes, and subsequent actions, is guaranteed to bring us to a place of peace and integrity.
All my love
V888
xxxxx
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