4th therapist starts tomorrow

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4th therapist starts tomorrow
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 8:38pm

Hey everyone- I'm starting with my fourth therapist tomorrow morning. For some reason I'm just not clicking with any of them, and I'm really getting frusturated. Is it me? Am I doing something wrong? Or does it just take awhile? Does anyone have any suggestions to make it go smoothely? Advice please...

Hope you all are well.
Meg

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 9:05pm
took me about 6 or 7.i found the one i like purely by accident.
it's not just you.
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 9:20pm

{{{{{{{{{Meg}}}}}}}}}}} I don't know how long you gave your first three therapists. But, sometimes it takes a few visits to get the impression of whether or not it's the right fit for you.


An example would be my dd16. I had her in therapy by a therapist recommended by my therapist. The therapist was a very good therapist, however, I noticed my daughter was leaving her office more distraught then she was when she went in. This was months after she had started therapy. I was blind to it, my dd didn't want to make waves, and the therapist was under the impression she was making progress.


So give this one a fair shake and see what happens. It may take more than a few visits, but hopefully this will be the one for you. I have had 4 therapists myself. The one I currently have is the best one I've had so far. Maybe 4 is the magic number...who knows. I wish you the best of luck with this new therapist. I understand your frustration and a good therapist will understand it as well and try to work through that.


Gentle Hugs,
Traci

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 9:26pm

My guess would be that it's not you. It is hard to find a therapist that you click with, and face it, a lot of them are just plain incompetent. Just keep trying, k?

Express!
Beth "Petrouchka"

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 10:31pm
Thanks for your thoughts everyone. I was hoping it's the therapists and not me. The first just told me to sit in the sunshine and be happy, the second wasn't even listening, and the third (which I thought was good) said I was "fine and ready to go" about a week after I got diagnosed with bipolar and then social anxiety. So I figure it's time to go on to the next. Hopefully you're right, Traci, 4th times a charm!!
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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 9:15am
I would keep looking till I found one I trusted implicitly. That's my #1 requirement! It's not you and it'll be a hassle till it settles down but in the end, worth it!!
Hugs, Kelli





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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 1:48pm

Meg, when you get a chance, let us know how it went with your new tdoc today. I know I'm hoping for you that it went well.


Hugs,
Traci

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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 3:00pm

Hi Traci!

It actually went really well this morning. I don't know if that's because I'm on clonazepam now and having slightly less social anxiety or if I just liked him better. He reminded me off the nice old man I saw up at college when I was sobbing saying "I just can't stay here anymore" who told me to go home and get better! :) So that's good. I just hope he can help me in 5 weeks!

Thank you for asking. How are you doing lately?
Meg

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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 3:38pm

That's great Meg!!!!!!! I'm glad it went well for you!


As for me, I seem to be a little on the manic side of life, but after the lithium overdose and the ill effects of that, I think I'll take the high for a while. LOL!


My ex has, for the moment at least, decided to settle out of court. So that's a good thing. Provided he keeps his word. His track record doesn't speak highly of keeping his word, so I'll believe it when I see it. But, there's hope.


So overall, I guess I'm doing pretty good. Again, I'm really glad to hear things went so well with the new tdoc. That's fantastic news!!!!!


Hugs,
Traci