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| Wed, 07-12-2006 - 6:33pm |
With me being in another state all I can do is verbal support. The other day my sister did ask when I plan on coming this summer, ugh, that was hard. I told her I wasn't but hopefully I could around the holidays. She asked why and I simply said I could not come until things were more settled between her, her H & my mom. I've gone through enough this past year and mental illness & I cannot take on theirs. I also pointed out that her kids are scared, stressed & frustrated and they are acting out. I cannot have my children around that.
Last year my son came home with a black eye (I think from his cousin who is the same age) and bruises around his neck (I believe from my brother-in-law trying to choke him). And things have only gotten worse in that house since.
So see, I am not running in to take care of my sister. I am seeing my limits & setting them.
Bonnie

(((((((((Bonnie))))))))) I'm sure it was difficult to tell your sister that, but give yourself a big pat on the back. You love your sister and want what's best for her, but at the same time, you have you and your family to put first. And if your children have come home from there in the past with evidence of abuse then you absolutely did the right thing.
I hope things with DH are still continuing to go well:)
Hugs,
Traci