BPD/Bipolar BF Raging Tonight
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BPD/Bipolar BF Raging Tonight
| Sun, 07-16-2006 - 12:55am |
Today I went out with my sister for several hours and got home tired (I was up and gone by 6 a.m.), came home, slept for several hours, and got up and attempted to tell the bf about my time out with my sister, however, he barely acknowledged me or what I said. When I was talking to him about it, he said next to nothing, too busy focusing on the computer (he'd been sitting at the computer continuously from Friday morning until he walked out the door pissed off at 8 p.m. tonight). Spoke to my mother on the phone, in the bedroom, and when she called I pushed the door over at bit so it was nearly closed (my mother is facing surgery soon and it is a matter that she doesn't want many knowing about). When I got off the phone my bf was in a pissed off mood, was angry because I was in bed talking on the phone (I'm still recovery from my recent surgery and awaiting test results to see if I have cancer or not and it's so stressful), and reminded me that I had the door nearly closed. I told him that mom and I were talking about her medical situation and I mentioned to him that she's embarrassed about it and I was respecting her feelings by talking in the bedroom and pushing the door nearly closed). He accused me of talking about him on the phone to my mother, which I never did and I told him to call mom if he didn't believe me. He told me that I am a horrible eater (I'm 5 ft 2 and weigh 120 lbs and eat healthy foods) and when I told him that I was planning on getting out and exercising more, he mentioned to me that I have been telling him that for the last 3 years and when I start to prove to him that I'm serious about it then he'll support me. I told him that I would appreciate some support from him and he told me that I should support him for a chance. I was crushed, so hurt. A few weeks ago he told me that no one has supported him that way I do and that he appreciates that. Well a huge argument began, swearing, yelling, shouting, name callling, he told me to go away and get lost. I was crying and he told me that I was behaving like a 4 year old child and I told him that he shouldn't have insulted me. I went and did the laundry and at 8 p.m. he informed me that he was going out for a walk and he took some of his meds with him for his bipolar and borderline personality along with his sleeping liquid and told me that he was going out and didn't know when he'd be back. I told him that he was going out to get away from me to which I received no response. He walked out the door and it's been many hours and I've not heard from him and when he gets home the relationship is definitely over. He has had a drinking problem before (we've been back together for nearly a year and he hasn't taken off like this since we got back together and he hasn't touched a drop of booze as far as I know, but when he was drinking heavily he'd disappear for days or weeks at a time and not call and then show up back home). His behaviour tonight was rude and tremendously selfish. I am very angry at this point and when he gets home I will be informing him that the relationship is over. He's off doing who knows what and him leaving the way he did and not calling, he's doing this to be mean to me. I needed to vent, thanks for listening. Any comments are welcome too

I am sorry to hear you are going through this. It sounds as though your bf has alot of issues going on that are affecting you quit a bit. I guess the question is do you deserve this treatment???? NO. Just because he has an illness doesn't mean you have to take abuse. If you are serious about leaving and taking care of YOU then great, but if you decide to stay then you have to be comfortable excepting his behavior. I am not one to really give relationship advice, but it sounds like you are in a very unhealthy situation. I am not telling you to leave or stay...that is your decision.
~ Tina ~
he doesn't deserve you.i don't care if he's bp bpd or what.
Sweetie, you are absolutely right in that you do NOT deserve such treatment. That would equate to me physically/emotionally abusing my children. The only 1/2 way reasonable explanation is that he is in the midst of a wildly manic episode. But even if, that doesn't give him the right to treat you that way.
You need to do what is best for you - not him. If that's ending the relationship or not, it's totally up to you. We're here for you. So post/vent as often as you need to.
Hugs,
Traci