I want to call him SO bad.. please help

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Registered: 02-07-2011
I want to call him SO bad.. please help
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Fri, 03-18-2011 - 2:37pm

It's been two months of NC and today, all day, I keep reaching for the phone and then putting it down. I feel so compelled to call him, to hear his voice... I don't know how to do this anymore. He is married, I am married, there is no future, and yet I am so drawn to him that I don't know how to make that go away.

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Registered: 01-31-2011
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 3:04pm

Play out the conversation in my mind - that is what I do.

What would you say?

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 3:57pm

((lisac))

Two month NC is fantastic. Please don't let the urge to contact him ruin all the work you have already done. We have a 48 hour rule where it is best to sit on these feelings for that time, after which you will feel differently, I promise. The sun, stars, and moon could be unfavorable aligning against you today...or maybe it's just plain PMs, ;-), but it will pass honey. Hearing his voice will jump start the addiction all over again...bite the bullet, honey. You are doing so well.

((Hugs))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 5:40pm
2 months are huge....and like you said, he is married, you are married, so what possible good could come of this call? Its a big no no....you will regret it. Esp if he does not answer and then you are wondering and then if he does, how he acts, how you will, not worth all the anxiety and possible pain. WORK THRU THIS.

You have been awesome for two months...do you really want to let all that go...all of that work...your so close to being a tweener. Come on....let it go. The urge will pass.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 05-15-2010
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 11:22pm

Hi Lisac

I am late chiming in but when I would get those urges..to phone or send an email, I would phone a friend, go for a walk.