My son...trigs maybe, i'm angry!!!

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My son...trigs maybe, i'm angry!!!
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Tue, 07-18-2006 - 2:17pm

Okay, I realize that teenagers can be a pain!!! But my son is gonna make me nuts...well, more nuts!!! He is so spoiled...he gets everything he wants (i know, my own fault) and he STILL complains and tells me of every failure I have.

He wants his learner's permit. Okay, fine...he's a good driver, and is learning well. However, I'm really broke these past few months...since I bought my car actually...and I did a bit of spending recklessly this past month. Not much, but when you don' thave much it doesn't take much. So, to get his permit will be about $80. I don't have it.

I thought I would this coming weekend, but I won't. I told him that and he went off...telling me not to break my promises again...that I always do. I told him we just spent too much money (he did too) and we would work it out in 2 weeks...he is still angry. I told him not to talk to me, dropped him off at home, and came back to work.

It upset me so much! I don't break my promises, but maybe I do. I do know he isn't patient and to him, its not his fault that I don't have any money. But still. I know in the big scheme of things, this isn't all important.

Its just so upsetting. He can get to me every time. He has a smart mouth, and big attitude. He thinks he is all that. He does!

Ugh.

Oh well. Just needed to vent about it.

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Registered: 05-22-2006
Tue, 07-18-2006 - 2:41pm
Teenagers are rough, rough, rough. Mine will be 19 in two weeks and she still doesn't think I love her enough to give her every little thing. I told her maybe because I love her is why I don't give her every little thing. They are completely self centered, manipulative, and impatient - which apparently is normal for their development (which I STILL find shocking even though I was that way too!). Don't let his actions (or wants) make you feel bad about yourself.
One thing that did help with mine was that she got a job at Boston Market. They and McDonald's (where she is now) are known to hire kids and help them learn responsibility - you know, the kind they don't want to learn from us.
The problem I have now is her spending her paycheck the very second it hits her hand with nothing, nothing, nothing to show for it. So we've decided to make her pay her own car insurance now (SO expensive, shockingly so, and we have a girl) and if she doesn't make it, she gets taken off the policy (she has made it every single time). Maybe that would be a good thing to start with ds when he gets closer to this stage? It's an eye opener and would help him start getting the feel of the "real" world out there. I am now training mine to cook with Ramen and mac & cheese for UCF next month.
Hugs to you - mothering is hard enough without BP, extra tricky with it. Kelli





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Registered: 05-02-2006
Tue, 07-18-2006 - 3:10pm

((((((((((((((Keli))))))))))))) Although my ds is only 9, I do have a dd that is 16. Now, when dd was old enough to obtain a work permit, she got one and applied for jobs that she could get herself to either by walking or public transportation. She saved her paychecks until she could help out with getting her permit. I know boys are different, all I have to do is look at my 9 yo ds. But, maybe that could be a bit of an incentive? I know now my dd is on her second job and saving for airfare for a scotish exchange trip through the school next year simply because she knows I'll never be able to afford it. She's the one that's bp and possibly add.


Now, my ds expects an allowance anytime he does any little thing around the house. For example, if he empties 1 of the trash cans he expects the full $5 that he would get at the end of the week for keeping them all empty all week long. It's a guy thing I think. But he is learning the hard way that mommy isn't made of money. He doesn't like it, but he'll live.