Time for a Roll Call

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Time for a Roll Call
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Mon, 03-21-2011 - 7:03am

The board has been real quiet and I hope that's a good thing. :smileywink: Also, a

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha

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Registered: 04-23-2010
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 8:28am
I have been reading and posting for over a year.
I don’t post much, because I feel like a hypocrite that I have fallen backwards so many times.
I am a male. An old man. Too old to be in this mess. I am addicted, and am trying a new way for me to break this. Natural Death.
I am three plus weeks NC this time, I have made it as far as six months before, but always get tricked back into contact.
My advice, is the same as the gurus. No Contact is no new hurt. Every time you falter, you only hurt yourself. It just isn’t worth it.
The other bit of wisdom from this ole man, is Be Prepared. Soon or later something will happen that will test you. You have to be ready at all times. The simplest preparation is be ready to hang up, don’t read and the last, turn and RUN away. You will save yourself a lot of grief if you do any of those things.
I feel like I know all you newbies as I read all the time.
I’ve been there, done that. I am just not committed enough.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 8:58am

RBM,

I am so happy that you have returned to NC again. We are never too old to make things right, KWIM? You were missed over the winter months and I was very concerned for you. Just happy to have you back, and thanks for your words of wisdom. I hope the newbies take it to heart.

((Hugs)) and congrats on the 3+ weeks.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 12-31-2009
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 9:37am

I'm still here.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 9:59am

((CSN))

I am so happy that you are still with us. You mentioned that you are hoping that one day your H will want you back together again...does this mean you are really seperated? I must have missed something here. I am so sorry you are going through this, and working now on your own issues is the best thing you can be doing for yourself, and I am very proud of you.

Keep us posted on your progress and anything else you would like to share. I will never forget how you made up your mind that it was over, and how you kept pushing forward (despite XJAM's nastiness) to make sure that it stayed that way. You are a remarkakle example of class and grace.

((Hugs))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 02-23-2011
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 10:12am

Another male looking to right his lost life.

NC for 10 days now.

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 10:26am

Yes, Iddy, my H and I have had some serious disagreements over the past few years, but in the last 1.5 years his drinking has increased and he has failed to come home on several occasions.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 10:45am

((CSN))

Please send me a PM anytime if you would like to talk. I will then give you my email addy if you want it. We have a lot in common, or should I say had...because I am no longer with my XBF who was a drinker, or with XJAM which you already know. BUT dang it....working with them is the pits! :smileymad:

(Hugs))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 09-28-2010
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 10:49am
I am here (:

Almost 1 year out of my 2 year EA/PA with co-worker/colleague.

Life has changed 100% for the better. Ddays for both of us - both planned to be together. I thank the Universe EVERY DAY that I changed my mind and sent him packing.

He still fishes by showing up where he knows where I will be because of school - now it doesn't phase me one bit.

I am happy, really happy. Even though my marriage has ended as a consequence, my stbx H and I remain the best of friends and our children are FLOURISHING.

Life can be hard, but with the healing & growth I have done since ending my affair, I have the most amazing new skills to assist me in working through real life problems, rather than creating fantasy ones that come back to make everything a thousand times worse.

To my cyber family, I owe my life.

TU.
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Registered: 09-25-2006
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 11:05am

This summer will be 5 years on EAS for me.

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 08-25-2010
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 11:28am
I am here - 9 months out of my A this past weekend, and this week (since today is my birthday) as a gift to myself - I have filed the paperwork - and will start life after Easter as a SINGLE woman. :) I am 5 months NC -

I am no longer struggling with the xAP or the xH for that matter - now just focusing on me and moving on. I've been making a lot of tough decisions lately - literally moving on and downsizing my household as my oldest prepares to serve a mission for our church - and my next oldest gets ready to go to college.

Much love,
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