Frustrated, feel like stepping away
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| Mon, 07-24-2006 - 8:53pm |
Well, I guess my sister has not hit bottom yet. I don't know what her bottom is, but she's not there yet & therefore not taking her illness seriously.
SIGNS TO LET ME KNOW:
While in the hospital she signed a release form for my older sister. Said they said it would be better if it was somebody closer in proximaty. Sister told me she told her doc she could tell us anything EXCEPT for follow up care. So I asked, 'you don't want us to check up on you?' and she replied no.
She brags how they told her she was creative in how to get prescription drugs of her desire.
I heard her ask her H to bring her 4 beers to kill slugs. Four beers for slugs? Sounds like just the right amount to get drunk.
She found some anphetamines(sp) and felt it was better than finding money. She stashed it for a 'later date.' Just in case.
She was out all night Saturday. Going to a party.
She says she will not take meds that will make her fat. She's worked to hard to lose the weight she's lost & the meds she takes at night (she couldn't think of what they were called) will make her fat.
Dept. of Family Svs has already popped by once. Said they will come unannounced once a week.
Will it take losing her kids before she'll take this seriously?
One huge concern is my BIL told my older sister how they had a plan to squish my mom out of her own home b/c it's exactly what they want in the location they want. (They cannot afford it - they stole 6K from my mom in the past 6 mos just to scrape by.) They want to force my mom into giving it to them.
Well, it appears they started immediately. Making my mom uncomfortable in her neighborhood. Grrrr.
So frustrating. My mom planned her retirement so carefully. Making sure her house & car were paid off. Getting jobs around the world to pay for her traveling & stock up on her retirement checks. They somehow think 50-100K is a great deal of money. But not when you're retired & extremely healthy & come from a line of women who live past 90 yrs.
I'm trying hard to stay out of all of it. But it aches my heart. There are just too many innocent victims here.
My sister has been my best friend for the past 9 years. But right now I'm so hurt I just do not even feel like talking to her any longer. I understand this is the nature of the illness, but it doesn't make it any less frustrating. Knowing there is treatment & it's not being received. Fine, my brother was that way (before he died), but this time there are children involved with a sick father to boot (unipolar & sexual addict I believe). It's like they do not have a safe place to go. My brother lived alone, never married & didn't have children. I felt he had the right to do what he wanted. I miss him, every day, but it was his life & his life alone.
Bonnie
