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fighting nice
| Thu, 03-24-2011 - 4:13am |
I've had a lot of time on planes lately, and got to thinking. Why was it so hard ignore xAPs latest fishing attempt? Why did I feel such a strong urge to reply? Why did I want to apologise and explain why I couldn't see him? Why was it so hard to press delete?
I don't want to see him, I don't want to be "friends" (not that we ever were), I don't have anything to say that hasn't been said already, and I certainly don't want to be back in the A. But I do want to be nice. Nice. Huh, there's an interesting word. What does nice mean? Nice means saying "yes" when someone asks you to do something, it means answering emails and returning phone calls right away, it means making yourself available even when it's not really convenient, it means avoiding conflict by smoothing over difficult conversations, it means overlooking bad behaviour and giving people the benefits of the doubt, it means bending over backwards to keep all of the people happy all of the time. Bloody he!l. Nice is part of what got me into this mess in the first place.
So I have decided that I don't want to be a nice person any more. I want to be good person. Good people are allowed to say no, and to ignore emails that threaten to harm their family, and to say what they really think, and to hold people accountable for bad behaviour, and to trust their instincts, and to focus on the happiness of their families and let other people be responsible for themselves.
So this week I'm fighting nice and striving for good instead. What about you? Did the desire to be nice play any role in your A?
I don't want to see him, I don't want to be "friends" (not that we ever were), I don't have anything to say that hasn't been said already, and I certainly don't want to be back in the A. But I do want to be nice. Nice. Huh, there's an interesting word. What does nice mean? Nice means saying "yes" when someone asks you to do something, it means answering emails and returning phone calls right away, it means making yourself available even when it's not really convenient, it means avoiding conflict by smoothing over difficult conversations, it means overlooking bad behaviour and giving people the benefits of the doubt, it means bending over backwards to keep all of the people happy all of the time. Bloody he!l. Nice is part of what got me into this mess in the first place.
So I have decided that I don't want to be a nice person any more. I want to be good person. Good people are allowed to say no, and to ignore emails that threaten to harm their family, and to say what they really think, and to hold people accountable for bad behaviour, and to trust their instincts, and to focus on the happiness of their families and let other people be responsible for themselves.
So this week I'm fighting nice and striving for good instead. What about you? Did the desire to be nice play any role in your A?

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Yes, it sure did play a role in my A.
Wow Kat.
Yes, yes, yes! I am a people pleaser!
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