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| Mon, 07-31-2006 - 12:48am |
I know we've talked before about not liking to be touched or touched in certain ways.
Tonight, again my DH tried to kiss me. Now I don't mind A kiss, but he was like pressing hard with is lips, making it a long drawn out kiss, and kissing me several times in a row. I kind of "freaked out" at him, as he would say and told him to stop it. Now he's upset with me (again). He doesn't understand why I wont kiss him.
Yes, I've tried to explain it to him but he just thinks I'm giving him the old "it's me not you" routine.
He's also accused me, semi-jokinly, of having an affair be it online or in person. He seems to think this could be the only reason I don't want o kiss him or have him touch me. He has made comments about my "boyfriends" several times...that is to say he has accused me of having one, not that I do have one.
He also doesn't understand why I don't get turned on when he touches me. I like back rubs and ack massages. In the days when I was manic this would turn me on greatly. Now that I am not manic it doesn't phase me in the least!
Anyone else like this?

it's lousy isn't it?
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I am also that way, Jo. You aren't alone!!! I hate it, because I'm only 36...ya know? But, it is what it is...mine probably stems more from the childhood sexual abuse I suffered...now that I'm not completely manic all the time, I "remember" things and it totally bites.
Sometimes I wish I could just be manic all the time again...at least then I felt alive too...
Hang in there honey.
Love and Hugs,
Keli
Jo, I was like that too when I was married. I never really connected it with bipolar because it was way before I was diagnosed. But knowing now what some of my triggers are I can honestly say I understand what you're talking about.
Unfortunately I don't have any sage advice for you on this one. As I was saying my dx came long after my divorce. So I couldn't try to remedy the situation.......but that's just my own personal history. With any luck you can get your dh to understand that this is a legitimate problem and that the two of you need to work together toward resolving it.