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New here and need some help...
| Fri, 03-25-2011 - 12:49am |
Hi, I am new and I am not sure where to post my situation but this seems like a good place to start since I am really feeling so much better thanks to this board.
I ended a four month affair (only one month physical) 2 weeks ago, well I ended it during a texting conversation but tried to backpedal right away but he was done with me.

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We were all fools during the A, we've all missed the "excitement" (although our racing hearts were really just our bodies' alarm systems warning us of danger), and we've all lost sleep asking "what is he thinking" and "is he hurting too". As you read other people's stories you'll come to see that its "the same circus, different clowns". The most important things you can do right now are to read in the healing library, post as often as you can, be kind and gentle with yourself, and start moving the focus of your thoughts away from him and onto yourself.
Yes, you were lucky that it "only" lasted four months. You haven't had to experience the devastation of a D-day or the regret of losing years of your life on someone who was never yours.
Do everything can to make this ending stick. Block his number, read the rules for LC at work over and over, prepare yourself to say "I can't talk" and walk away if he approaches you outside of work.
You can do this and we'll be here supporting you every step of the way.
Sunshine and smiles from Australia
Kat.
Tuff
Tynk
no contact means feeling free, not feeling guilty and looking in the mirror and finally, finally&n
Hi Trying,
Im glad you have found EAS and that reading and lurking on the board has helped you.
TTBT,
Welcome to our community and
Hi, Trying,
2 weeks out is a tough place to be - I'm 8 weeks out, right behind Katniss and yes, it does get easier.
I hope you're reading the Healing Library - I was here for 2 days straight, got absolutely no work done, but SO grateful for the resources here.
He doesn't miss you because he is a player and you didn't play by HIS rules.
Don't make someone a priority that is/was making you an option.
Oh, Tynk, that is brilliant - I'm going to post this in Iddy's "You guys Rock" thread.
NSN,
In all of your readings you haven't read this before? "Never make someone a priority who only makes you an option?" It's been around for years and a long time favorite. I am happy that Tinker posted it since it seems to have resonated with you.
((Hugs))
Iddy,
It must have been in one of the lengthy "Wisdom and Insights" threads, LOL. And, I've read pretty much everything at HL.
YES! Definitely struck a chord in me.
HI Tryingtobetough-
I'm sorry that you are hurting.
Thank you everyone for your responses.
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