A Question

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2010
A Question
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Fri, 03-25-2011 - 9:35am

Good morning!

So my question is a bit personal.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: actingasif
Fri, 03-25-2011 - 9:57am

oph! no.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2009
In reply to: actingasif
Fri, 03-25-2011 - 10:19am

GOOD MORNING TO YOU!!!

I agree with your therapist that we need to stay connected to our spouses.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2011
In reply to: actingasif
Fri, 03-25-2011 - 11:51am

Aside from intercourse, I think kissing is the most

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2011
In reply to: actingasif
Fri, 03-25-2011 - 12:50pm

Dear Asking,

From the male perspective I have to tell you it isn't the different for us.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: actingasif
Fri, 03-25-2011 - 2:44pm
I've been married 24 years, and we don't kiss passionately. I've mentioned to DH a few times, and he will do it if I ask him to, but we almost seem like we've "grown" out of it. When I was in the A I was looking for that passion, but xAP didn't kiss much either, DH and I hug ALL the time. A nice tight embrace just makes my day : )
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Registered: 04-23-2010
In reply to: actingasif
Sat, 03-26-2011 - 6:19pm

You mean those deep, long warm kisses where you are trying to crawl inside each other through the lips? We used to call them make-out sessions.

I had often wondered in my life how I did that and didn't move on to sex quickly.

With xAP, I now understand that feeling of closeness, the warmth of each other, and the softness.

Yeah, it was good with her.

My DW thinks that I am only trying to get sex if I try anything like that with her. She is content with a peck.

My marriage

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
In reply to: actingasif
Sat, 03-26-2011 - 11:49pm
Sorry AAI, I'm still too raw and too close to my ending to be able to contribute to this thread, without triggering a whole heap of memories and emotions that threaten to take me right back to square one. I'm pleased you're finding your MC helpful.
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Registered: 11-24-2010
In reply to: actingasif
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 9:32am

((KAT))

I'm so sorry if this thread affected you in that way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: actingasif
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 9:40am

Acting,

Thanks!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
In reply to: actingasif
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 10:13am

AA!~

This was an interesting thread to read, but may I suggest to you and to other married posters that threads like this (H and M talk stuff ) should be posted in the Married OW/OM section of the board. That way us single gals can decide if we want to go there or not. This also applies to the single OW/OM when they want to talk about dating, etc. Married peops don't really need to read about that stuff either. I know that many of you forget to scroll down to those sections, and this is why there are very few NEW posts in them, but that is the purpose for the different sections.

The "General" section should be for intros and discussions re. affair questions/issues/healing and sadly, relapses.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha

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