Tough day already....

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Tough day already....
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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 2:19pm

So I have been good. Amazed myself at this NC thing because I really really really am tempted to see how he is doing. Also, he (almost seems on purpose) has stopped posting ANYTHING on facebook for days (SO UNLIKE HIM!). Not knowing how he's doing and what he's up to is killing me. I feel like he's either hurt or cutting me off or something. He must know he's my addiction. 9 days of NC.

I am getting ready to leave the house and walk around a bit. I need to remember why I'm doing this...right now I'm tempted!

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Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 03-31-2011 - 3:32pm

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Thu, 03-31-2011 - 3:43pm

#1 is right. BLOCK so that you don't try to read into what he is posting or not posting.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Thu, 03-31-2011 - 4:11pm
Congrats on making it to day nine and to recognizing the need to stay busy and re-focus your energy.

I also echo that cyber stalking is a form of breaking NC ... keeping your mind wrapped up in his coming and goings ... and your still living in a fantasy world when you are trying to make meaning out of NOTHING. This is how you continue to feed the addicted brain - that is trying to make what he does/doesn't do about you.

Keep up the good work, but still some work to be doing on getting the hang of NC.

TU.
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Registered: 01-23-2010
Thu, 03-31-2011 - 4:30pm

Also, he (almost seems on purpose) has stopped posting ANYTHING on facebook for days (SO UNLIKE HIM!). Not knowing how he's doing and what he's up to is killing me. I feel like he's either hurt or cutting me off or something. He must know he's my addiction. 9 days of NC.

Maybe he is just busy with his real life? I don't think his entire purpose in deciding to post on FB or not is about you. You are reading too much into him and not focusing on things that would make you happy. Like the others wrote NC means no cyber-stalking as well. Stop chasing the clown. You can do this. You really can. Just ask that wonderful woman who you used to be before you met him. I'll bet she will tell your how you survived every day without JAM..

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Registered: 03-24-2011
Thu, 03-31-2011 - 8:10pm

Blueroses,