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| Thu, 03-31-2011 - 8:15pm |
I would like to know more of you on this board and since I am so new I am just curious:
1. How long was your A?
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| Thu, 03-31-2011 - 8:15pm |
I would like to know more of you on this board and since I am so new I am just curious:
1. How long was your A?
2.
Hi Tuff,
Iddy does a roll call every month or so, which is a great way to catch up with who's who and the progress we've made. The most recent one might have happened just before you joined? Here's the link: http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/General-Discussions/Time-for-a-Roll-Call/m-p/117103063/highlight/true#M148812
Will try to write more later - just need to make a deadline at work ...
Big hugs
Kat
Ok nevermind.
I'll play :)
A lasted 18mths
ended in Sep 10 but I broke NC a few times. I reset my clock the day I finished cyber-stalking him (yep real proud of that one) on Feb 14.
Changed me- yes. In some bad ways- made me obsessive, anxious, frustrated, less attentive at work and with my family! But FROM THAT has come good stuff-
* I am now in Therapy which is probably something i have LONG needed as I have suffered from depression and tend to be obsessive anyway.
* I am trying hard to live in the moment- which is a Godsend and a great thing to aspire
Iggy, thank you for sharing
I'll play too.
Thank you too for sharing!!
Tuff - sorry I didn't have more time to write yesterday. Bad things that came from my A were behaving in ways I thought I would never be capable of, breaking all of my feminist principles by showing appalling disrespect to another woman (and another mother at that), subjugating the happiness of my H and children to my shallow selfish desire to be desired, continuing with those behaviours after my H had pleaded with me to stop, neglecting friendships to be available in case he should text or call, the list goes on ...
Good things to come from the A were finding EAS, finally realising the value of what I had at home all along, learning to live and love in the present moment rather than in a fantasy world of make-believe, being forced to confront a lifetime of insecurities and unhealthy patterns of thought and behaviour ...
Hope you're feeling a little stronger and brighter today - you must be looking forward to some days off.
Hugs and smiles,
Kat
I had an A with a mm 11 years ago. I was 22 at the time
Welcome to the board, Jeannie. We always appreciate the wise words from those who have BTDT. Thank you for participating on some of these threads and I hope we read more from you.
((Hugs))