xap's wife sent email to me
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| Fri, 04-01-2011 - 10:01am |
I received an email this morning just as I was journaling for my T session, writing out my "goodbye" to him. How ironic. It just said that xap ruptured his achilles tendon and will have to undergo "a painful recovery" and prayers are requested. I had already blocked his phone calls, texts and emails. Now, she's got a hold of his contacts and shot out a mass email prayer request for him. And I was greeted by it this morning when I logged onto my account.
Now i've got to block her too, now that I know what that email address is. I'm bothered by it. I haven't made contact in 3 wks now. Haven't bothered them. I've left them alone. I'm actually working on forgiveness of myself and him. And then this stupid email comes along?! Talk about timing. But I'm not going to respond. Nope. There's nothing to say. NC = No New Hurts. I'm tired of being the one in pain. Enough tearing off that band aid. I'm moving forward..and away from him. This is just one of bump on my pathway, but I WILL get through this. With my sanity, respect and dignity, intact. I won't let him win. This is about me now.

Wa-Hoo!
Thank you very much Heartache for your encouraging words :) I admit I was rattled by it this morning, but after coming here to EAS,
Good job WU!
Hi WU
Good for you!!! This would have been a tough email to receive- I take it you and exAP's wife are friends, or connected somehow?
You will definately need to block that number as well, its simply too painful to hear things and news etc.
Well done WU- you are travelling well.
Iggyx
I can only imagine how jarring it was to get that email. So good that you had the strength to not respond. Three weeks out is such a tipping point.
I did want to ask you though - why did you read the email from W? Once you saw it in your inbox, how long did you wait until you read it?
It wasn't them bothering you, him fishing, or her being troublesome - my guess is she wouldn't have included you on an email had she known of the affair, or else she didn't carefully read his contacts list before sending off a mass email.
It was just a mistake, an oversight. You would now do well to reflect on why you read the email, whether or not you exercised impulse control (there would have been some indication in the subject line as to what the email was about), and start planning how you are going to respond in the future if there are any more emails sent around.
I can tell that you're working so hard (going to T, journaling) ... You ARE doing this WU.
With care,
TU.
Thank you Iggy for your response. xap's wife and I weren't friends at all. He had introduced us when we were both in the A, and I felt she was "keeping her friends close but her enemies (me) closer."
As much as it shook me yesterday, and after prayer and my T session this morning, I'm doing much better. My feet are firmly planted now and I've got direction now. Yesterday I was a mess. Now I have a duty to fulfill and I'm going to do this. There's no turning back now.
Thank you again and take care,
Hugs,
WU
Hugs,
WU
Thank you very much Transcended.us for your response. Those are really good questions and some that I really need to address now.
As to why I read the email, I was curious. The title was "thank you" and so I was wondering, what could this be? What am I being thanked for? And unfortunately I read it right away. My impulses kicked in and I read. And re-read it. And then I noticed it was solely addressed to me. That's when the fear and anxiety and paranoia kicked in.
As for a future plan on how to handle this incase it occurs again, well I've blocked that email address now and I'm not going to read any unknown emails anymore. I'll delete them once I see them and I won't let curiosity get the best of me anymore. It's not worth it at all. I don't need that drama, stress and anxiety in my life. I'm working on myself now. This is about me. Not about him. Or her. Or their lives. Its time to fix me. And I'm going to do this.
Thank you so very much for yours and everyone's responses. I greatly appreciate you all!
Hugs,
WU