I think "Acceptance" is vital for healing...
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I think "Acceptance" is vital for healing...
| Fri, 04-01-2011 - 2:01pm |
i think I've finally accepted it - the fact that it's over, he's moved on and I must move on.
A few weeks ago, I found out xAP didn't come into

Just reading that made me hurt for you, the wondering part I mean.
This is PROGRESS, sweetie! The emotional disengagement is ON! ;-)
((Hugs))
Oh, I'm not at the "not bothering me anymore" point yet, lol. But, every day I am more and more convinced that that day will come. That day did was not even a reality in the first few weeks.
I liken this acceptance to grieving over any loss - like my camera, lol.
I held on to the hope it would come back because I really did love that little camera and was SO distraught, especially because it had some great photos I had not yet developed!
But, once I accepted that it wasn't coming back and came to terms with it , I stopped obsessing and thinking about it! LOL!!!! What a kooky analogy!
And, in the beginning I let the thoughts of xAP wash over me in waves, but now, I am past the grieving and want to stop the thoughts.
I read in HL (or was it here) about TAKING CONTROL of your thoughts. It's difficult but possible. Easier on some days/times, more difficult at others . . . But, NOT impossible...
Iddy,
Yes, 'emotional disengagement' - less caring/wondering if he misses me, thinks about me, wants me, ugh.
Focus turned to ME!
Hope Iddy's got a good supply of feathers ready, 'cos we'll be earning those tweener wings before we know it. :)
Big hugs to you.