She is driving me crazy

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Registered: 04-27-2006
She is driving me crazy
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 4:47pm

My dd lives with her dad. She moved in with him last year. All I ever hear is how horrible it is with him and his wife. I wasn't good enough for her before she moved in with him, now it is him.


All I ever hear is " I want" come out of her mouth or " It's not fair"


Her grandfather pays for her cell phone bill. Her phone broke. I told her to save her money to get another one...she is working. She tells me, well, I don't want Nextel anymore. Her grandfather, my moms old bf, has another year left on the contract. She is telling him to cancel the plan. Well, it cost like 175.00 to cancel before your contract is up. She is out of her mind. See, she doesn't have to pay for it so why should she care...teens, they are so selfish(most of them anyway).


She calls me telling me how fat she is, she is 5' 7 and weights about 145. She is not fat. Then she tells me about all the juck food she is eating....WELLLLL


Her dad gets her a car. Tells her he will fix whatever needs to be fixed and put it through inspection. Because she quit school, the rule is when she gets her G.E.D he will put her on his car insurance but until then she has to pay on her own policy, which is about $300 a month. She is asking me to put her on my insurance. That would mean I will have to put her car in my name along with hers and if she doesn't come up with the insurance money, I am stuck paying it. I am on a fixed income( disability)

     ~ Tina ~

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Sun, 09-10-2006 - 9:18pm

(((((((((((((((Tina)))))))))))))))) I understand your plight. Tonight alone I've dealt with a son who refuses to do his chores and my 16 yo dd (the one who's bipolar) has been having meltdowns because she has a huge course load this year along with a part time job and she plays softball. She refuses to accept that being bipolar may prevent her from doing things at the same pace that her peers do so I just told her to quit complaining then and go do her homework. She's only been in school for a week and has had at least 3 meltdowns over homework already.


We, as parents, can only do so much for our kids no matter how much more we may want to do. Your dd wants more than you can give and her father's limitations are perfectly fair. He wants her to assume responsibility before he puts her on his insurance. It's hard to hear your child say how mean you or the other parent but you've got to stand strong.


I can also relate to the problematic studying. My concentration tonight has been shot as well. Maybe just take a breather and go back to your studies. I don't know what your schedule is like but I hope a breather is possible. And try to stay strong with your dd. I will do the same with mine. Deal? Hang in there sweetie.


Hugs,
Traci

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 8:34am

Hey honey! Do I EVER know how you feel!!! My ds is making me nuts...he's also very selfish and thinks of nobody but HIMSELF. I however, think this is a typical teenager thing. It makes me dislike him many times. Truly...though that is hard to admit.

He's gotta go to his pdoc whether he wants to or not...I hate having to force him, but he's getting worse and worse and I need to get him on something to calm that mania a bit...Abilify, is what I'd like to put him on...I love his pdoc, so its just a matter of forcing him to go.

I told him last night I would so call 911 and admit him to the psych ward if he didn't calm down...and he said, I can't help it, my BP is hard to control. DUH!!! That's why we have to take meds for it!!!

Ugh.

You stand your ground with Jayme...she'll work it out on her own, they always do...I know its hard to do that though...

How are you today?

Love you tons,

Keli