Today has NOT been a good day!

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Today has NOT been a good day!
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Sat, 09-16-2006 - 11:14pm

It started last night when xh sent my 13 yo dd an instant message telling her how sorry he was he's been absent from her life, etc. just pouring it on thicker and heavier as he went. Playing the perfect victim. Well, my dd showed the conversation to me and my 16 yo dd - the one who has had the turbulent relationship with xh. Well, this got my 16 yo thinking and she sent xh an im today basically offering the olive branch. He flat out ignored it. This dd is the one with bipolar and the ignoring of the im went over like a lead balloon. So she's been very needy all day and I've been in one of my more irritable moods so I haven't been too receptive to the neediness. I'm trying to put my irritability aside and comfort her but it's really hard to do.


My 9 yo ds is involved in a church program and it's tomorrow morning and my mother just informed me that she wants to go. It has taken me a long time and a lot of searching to find a church that I felt comfortable in. And frankly the fact that she has her own church that she attends made it easier to choose this one. Now she's wanting to become a part of this church because me and the kids are going. It's like I can't do anything by myself anymore. That's not helping my irritablity.


It just seems like everything is hitting me the wrong way today and i feel an explosion coming on. And those are never good and my tdoc is out of town until the 21st.


Sorry for the rant. Thanks for listening.


Traci

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Registered: 05-22-2006
Sun, 09-17-2006 - 5:19pm
Hi Traci - boy, when it rains, it pours - doesn't it? Daughters and their fathers, it's such an important relationship that can be a riddled minefield. Your poor 16 yo DD, I feel for her. Such a tough age too. I see my 19 yo DD pick boyfriends who are like her father, it kills me, and she always gets disappointed.
It's hard to maintain ourselves half the time and then we have to do for the kids. I was so happy my 7 yo DD had a sleepover last night and it was heaven getting the break.
Tell your mom "no".
Many, many hugs to you today - hopefully it will get better before an explosion.
P&PT's, Kelli





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