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| Thu, 09-21-2006 - 1:35pm |
collosal complainer.
forget the fact that the puppy has forgotten about defacating on the paper during the night & thinks stepping in it is fun,my attempt to lower him into a shallow bath resulting in apoplexy,so forget THAT idea.
mornings are FUN!especially now that my 11 year old is on a MISSION to stay home from school for any reason whatsoever.it is her quest.last year all my kids were almost left back & the 11 year old didn't get into the school she wanted AS A RESULT OF 33 ABSENCES & IDIOTS for parents.so far she has tearfully begged out 5 days & is only permitted 10 days absent or she fails 6th grade.i've told my kids that istay home so i can pick them up if they are sick ONCE THEY GET TO SCHOOL.i'd love to get a job & they can go to daycare till 5:30 & then know how lucky they are now.
i lost it.i became so hysterical i couldn't breathe.i threw bookbags out the window.my h claimed i was having a medication meltdown(?????)
i have nightmares everynight.last night i dreamed i left my family to become a slave.my MOTHER laughed when i told her that while crying.i called her to talk to my dd & she told me i should take my dd to a psychiatrist.like i don't have enough trouble finding one for me.
i'll tell you tho,i am not looking foward to meeting this new one.not onr bit.
my youngest claims she doesn't know how to do her homework.the truth is,she acts borderline retarded & i've had her tested & thankfully she's not but you'd never know it to meet her.she has no friends her age.they all play w/ my middle dd.
back to my day.
i bought a pack of cigs & i'm chainsmoking & i quit years ago.took me 2 yeARS to quit the gum alone.
while mom was visiting from shangri la i got a rash on my neck.i think she said something stupid like get rid of your cat,but i figured it was a mental rash & SHE gave it to me..3 days later i called the doc & made an appt...my last one was a lamictal rash in the hospital & it scared me...my appt was at 4:30 & the notion of leaving my oldest & youngest home alone NOT TO MENTION with the new puppy & walking to the appt w/ my middle dd during the homework & dinner hour didn't sit right so i cancelled.there's a knot behind my ear & the rash has reached my feet & it hurts so it doesn't make my disposition any better.
oh...& i got my period late so the cramps are worse(yum..periomenapause) & i binge ate the day it started.food hangover.
yuch.
did i mention i've spent in excess of 5000$in mania money in an embarrassing amount of time?i gave over 20000$ to witch dr. & lent the rest to my brother...the yuppie spendaholic & my ****** h who still owes me $ he'll never pay back.
it makes me miserable that i was such a mouth last summer ensuring that i WONT have a job next summer!
so...new puppy=vet=$$$$ old dog put to sleep=vet=$$$(+ the fortune he charged me in the visit before for the unused meds & heartworm medication(still can't figure out why he insisted on that..heartworm wasn't gonna kill the dog at that point & those pills cost 100$!!!!!!)
found the cat who has been p.o. ed about the new dog & maybe misses the old dog which is what i figured the weird behavior was about.
the cat's face was puffed up on one side like an apple.
of course i managed to get the vet at the hospital who intimidates the peepee out of me.they HAVE to put the cat out & don't know WHEN i'll get him back.
cha-ching.
do you know that the vet charges you for every thing they use & have to throw away???every single thing.
i call my h & he gives me that long suffering how much is this gonna cost me thing(he always says he's sorry,but still manages to say it.he'll say it again later tho)
i tell him nothing.i have a little money left.
when the receptionist asks for a deposit & i ask if 100 is ok & she says make it 500,i know this is gonna cost.ALOT.
i hope they let me take my cat home today.telling my middle dd that her cat is in the hospital right after her dog dies is not going to be easy.i'm tempted to say nothing & pretend the cat's out.
the next person who lets this cat out no matter how much the cat wants it is gonna get kicked around by me tho.
wow.i can't beleive you read this.
i merely meant to vent.
& its only 1:30 in the afternoon.

Hi Suziq, sounds like a rough day.
I don't know if you really want any advice, I know sometimes I just have to vent and really don't want any well intentioned advice- I just wanna get it out. That's good to do sometimes rather than building up inside and exploding. So ((big hugs)) I'm sorry you've had a stinky day.
If you do want some well intentioned advice- continue reading, if not, see the Hugs above and ignore the following! hehe
For the puppy, have you considered crate training? The first day or so is pure torture (at least it was for me) with the puppy crying, but after that it really works to keep the house peepee-free, and chew-free when you're out of the house or through the night. For baths, if you have a real whiney puppy when it comes to bath time, you can start out by sitting the puppy in the tub that is dry and petting and coo'ing so the Big tub isn't so scarey, then have a bucket of water that you sit in the tub and use to wet the cloth and wash the puppy. Then you can gently tip over the bucket and let the water slowly run into the tub -that already has a sudsy puppy in it. Then use the water to rinse. Painstaking, I know, but it can aleviate all that battling of a squirming freaking-out puppy and lead to a calmer, more enjoyable bath time. After doing this way a few times, can then tip the bucket right after puppy is in the tub, then work up to having water already there when putting him/her in the tub. // crate training is the same painstakingly slow method of leaving the crate door open, with a blankey and a puppy cookie or bone in the crate, letting the puppy enter and exit as he/she pleases, then putting them in the crate with the door shut, with the blanket, and a bone or raw hide or pigear to distract them and leaving them there for 15 minutes before openning the door, then moving up to 30 min, the key there is to not open the door while the puppy is crying or barking. That will teach them that whining/barking gets the door open. (alot like kids)
In regard to the children not going to school, you know that this nearly resulted in their being held back a grade. This is something that will take an Iron will and consistency. Every day, they go to school. No begging out, no compromise, no fight. It is very hard, but you can do it. Once you have told them to get ready for school, when it gets to the point of "but I don't waaaant to goooo" try completely ending any discussion. Going to school is not up for debate. Keep a firm and CALM voice and say only "go to school". They backtalk, sass, yell, whine, whatever- reply with only "go to school" in that same calm voice. They're sick? Good thing the school has a nurse huh? "go to school." Only time they come home sick from school is if the NURSE calls you. if they call, they stay at school. No arguing. "I love you honey, have a good day at school." They'll live. If they are truly sick sick, the nurse will call you.
Repeating a very simple, very short, statement "go to school" "do your homework" in a very calm firm voice registers with the primal brain, long story, but the short of it is, it does work. But there can be no yelling, no arguing, no explaining. Don't give in to being goaded into a shouting match. Also refuse to hear anything said when it is shouted, yelled, whined, etc. If they can manage to say it in a normal, calm voice, you might reply with something like "I understand you feel XYZ, or want to XYZ." (That validates the childs feelings, but does not allow them to goad you into a power struggle, and does not allow them to use bad behavior to get their way.
Of course, different families have different coping methods, and the exact same techniques do not work for all families. My advice is only that. It is not intended to make any insinuations or to promote any one method over another.
Best wishes!
Michelle
Currently SAHM
Previously DCS Case Manager / Behavior Modification for 2 yrs (for children in foster care)
Previously DMRS Behavior Specialist for 5 yrs (for children/adults with Mental Retardation/dual diagnosis Mental Health Disorders)
Suzi, I am glad you came here and vented. Sometimes we just need to get this off our chest and put it out there instead of keeping it all inside. Hope things are less stressful and you are getting some kind of break. Hang in there.
Hug- Tina
~ Tina ~
thanks...both of you..i needed that.
i'll also spare you the rest of the day....
michelle....you wanna move in with me?pleeease?
I hope tomorrow is a more peaceful day for you!
LOL- thanks for the invite, but I am pretty cozy here! hehe
Michelle