It's done!

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It's done!
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Thu, 10-05-2006 - 2:02pm

Okay Suzie's & another poster from the MI Family board has me really thinking ... sitting on all of this was not just putting my emotions down, but I am in essence lying to him (playing that stupid game again).

I finally got the strength to copy the phone minutes to an email basically stating please explain, I'm trying to stay neutral until I know more. Just as I was going to hit the send button the phone rang. My H. He didn't beat around the bush, immediately brought up the fact there has been communication ... with a lie, said she called him. I confronted immediately. I said funny, I was just about to hit send on an email that showed you initiated contact. So then he said he could not remember how it all happened.

... but he told her to get a life. He loves his wife & children and he's staying with us and to leave him alone.

So then I asked, if she makes another threat are you strong enough to call the crisis hotline and leave it at that? He said yes.

He did have ONE glass of wine, but in no way is even hung over today. He does sound sober & good.

There have been two constants in our 12 year marriage.

1. When ever I feel we're at the height of our relationship, I feel at ease & excited the bottom drops out.

2. Everytime I make a plan to move on he comes to his own rescue at the last minute. (If you didn't know last year Dec 22nd was the day I expected him back in my home or I was filing D - he came home on Dec 9th. ... Dec 22nd was the 1st anniversary of my brother's death & I felt if he was not there for me on this tragic day then it was over.)

So I'm okay now! He says he feels strong enough not to drink today on the plane. I did make him promise to call me on his layover if he was starting to feel weak.

Thanks for all your support again!

Bonnie




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Thu, 10-05-2006 - 2:22pm

that is wonderful news !!!


I hope you celebrate when he gets home

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Thu, 10-05-2006 - 2:29pm
Bonnie, good luck and many hugs!!! Kelli





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