One month NC today!
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One month NC today!
| Mon, 04-11-2011 - 9:04pm |
Don't know if I would classify this as a success or not a's most have witnessed my almost daily struggle. For the newest of the newbies I can share that one month NC as of today has not been easy (I work with exAP) but I promise it is a bit easier. Easier enough that I can breathe again. I saw a counsellor for the first time today and that helped. It is still a raw thing for me but I can actually see now that things do get better and will continue to get better. For me the best thing from this board has been my 2 new buddies that I private message (ALL day long) LOL! We keep each other going.
As tempted as I am to contact exAP sone days I do know NC is for the best.
As tempted as I am to contact exAP sone days I do know NC is for the best.

New newbies - I hope you're listening up :) This is what one month of dedicated NC/LC can achieve. Just 30 days of dignified silence and you'll be breathing easier and feeling so much better ... Oops - I feel myself at risk of sliding into a late night "money back guarantee" advertorial for the miraculous powers of NC, so I'll leave it there ... :)
Tuff, huge hugs to you honey. You're doing great!
I think I needed to read this this morning. 7 days NC for me and I woke up this morning so sad :(
Tuff,
Most definitely, one month is HUGE around here. You are breathing easier already so just imagine what another month can do. I am also so proud of you for going to counseling and have cyber buddies for back up. You are doing all the right things. It just takes time and patience, so keep going in the positive direction that you are. By summer you will we be amazed by your own strength and how far it has taken you. This in turn builds up your self esteem and before you know it, you will start to see Xmm morph into JAM who will have you rolling your eyes and muttering under your breath, "WTH was I thinking?"
It's an amazing thing isn't it? If you just concentrate on getting through a day at a time- you find that a week has passed, then two and then a month!
I would never have thought I could go NC, and in many ways I'm lucky that my exAP doesn't fish (plus our previous normal communication channels are blocked).
But you do get through it don't you. Despite thinking it will kill you - it doesn't! It does in fact make you stronger.
ExAP takes up their rightful part in your life - as a small hill you toughened yourself on that gets smaller and smaller in your rear view mirror.
Keep moving forward, next thing we know we will be at three months!!!!
Iggyxx
Congratulations on one month Tuff! That in itself is an awesome accomplishment and I'm right there with you as well. It does and will get better. The heaviness will subside, and life and the most simplest of things will become so much more vivid. You're doing this :) And congrats as well for going to counseling. You've got the tools in hand to make this happen and I know you will. One step, one day at a time.
One month is HUGE! And, I totally empathize with the "breathing" part. It's still dificult, but nothing compared to the first week when it feels like we've been punched in the gut!
"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~
Fantastic TTBT!!
melinda