Complete meltdown this eve ...
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Complete meltdown this eve ...
| Wed, 04-13-2011 - 6:27pm |
Felt it building all day as was dressed at work. Went out with friends and lost it in car on way home. Feel so guilty, stupid, lost and still hurt. Still no contact outside of work. Go for so long then crumble. Is this normal for 3.5 weeks? Need some strength from you - help to stay positive. Am not tempted back but can't seem to let the feelings go.
Thanku x
Thanku x

Big hugs
Kat
As usual, Kat gave some wonderful advice :)
3.5 weeks is still very early, even though to you it feels like a lifetime.
3.5 weeks is GREAT, i dont recall how long your affair was but the guideline that it takes half the length of time of the A for things to seem really much much better. I found it to be true, so unless yr affair was 6 weeks long.... stay strong.. you ARE over the hardest bit, but that doesnt mean it gets much easier but you are stronger and everyone day is another day out from the fog.... DAY by DAY
NC x
New Choices, New Chapter,
New Challenges,
It is so very normal for 3.5 wks. I found myself bursting into tears very often on my way home in the car, as soon as I walked in the door and whenever I had free time to think.
Getting through the next 3.5 weeks and then the next WON'T be the same as the first. As long as you stick to LC, you will NEVER EVER have to do these first few BRUTAL weeks again. YOU will never ever have to detox again. CELEBRATE that yellow ... YOU HAD THE COURAGE to do what many people only wish they could do with such grace - you have ended an affair, and YOU know that YOU are TOO valuable to think twice about giving up on yourself.
YOU now can begin to feel how much you truly are worth.
Stay the course ... YOU will be AMAZED at how time can heal.
TU.
You're doing fine and this too shall pass.
Chechi
"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~
I reckon every 3 weeks you go through s slump but they definately get better!!!!!
Three weeks may not seem like a long time, but for me it was the beginning of a lot of free writing that helped me work through some major issues I was having - writing in a journal, or in a private blog (I have a public one, and one that I can only see) that are not stored on my personal possessions - where I can air my feelings and somehow put them out into the universe.