Everquest / MMORPGs

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Everquest / MMORPGs
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Thu, 10-12-2006 - 10:05pm

Massive-Multiplayer-online-role-playing-games ...

have these games negatively affected anyone else out here? My DH is an addict with the game. He plays EVERY day, and we schedule our lives around him being at the scheduled 'raids'- 24 people online in a group all fighting the pixilated dragon in the game... they do this EVERY Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday of EVERY WEEK. Ugh.


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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: xyro
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 8:17am

Xyro:

Happened to stop in and I saw your post. My husband and I are both EQ addicts LOL...in fact, we MET in the game.

I have met people who have had issues because of it - and know one that got divorced because his wife got sick of it. HOWEVER, I do know some that found ways around it. Have you suggested to your husband that he miss some raids, not to leave the game (of COURSE NOT!) but to teach YOU the game? Perhaps if you can play the game with him, and pull him out of raids to "grow" a toon with you, he will gain some perspective...and you can suggest missing a game without him panicking that he will miss out on all the uber loot from the raid.

Of course, I know some people this won't work with, unfortunately...and their priority is just the game...they are in guilds that REQUIRE people to raid so many days a week and he will panic at the thought of leaving his guild. If he falls into this category, then you may want to just sit down with him and explain clearly how this is affectng your marriage and the consequences of his game play.

I know I haven't been much help, sorry, but I can empathize...of course the problem we have is usually that we don't have enough time to play together :*(

Good luck and best wishes!!
Tracey

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Registered: 08-03-2006
In reply to: xyro
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 9:26am

That's the worse part. I have played for years and I was the one that introduced him to the game! The difference is that I put real life before logging into the game where he plays regardless of what is going on in real life.

We're in the same guild, the difference is that I refuse to put going on raids before my stepdaughter (HIS KID!) or before real life stuff. Like the days I raid with him I leave to give her a bath and read her a bedtime story. One time when I said its his turn to do it, he was too obsessed with not leaving the raid that he told her to just go upstairs and turn off the lights and go to bed. Sure, some families do that, and not reading a bedtime story certainly isn't neglect, BUT she was SO disappointed, she said maybe after your raid if I'm still awake you can tuck me in? (the kids only 6 yrs old)

It's not about the loots though, he doesn't bid on stuff anymore, neither of us do really (we have everything already). DH's thing is that they Neeeeeeed him. It gives him a feeling of being important or something I suppose.


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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: xyro
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 1:23am

That is tough...I don't know what to say. Maybe if there is a way to make him feel needed by his daughter? Don't know. Not sure what else to say except maybe talk to the guild officers/leader and see if they can offer some input??

Good luck!

btw: what server do you play on? I am on 7th hammer

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Registered: 08-03-2006
In reply to: xyro
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:11pm

We're on the Antonia Bayle Server. I use to be a severe addict before I got married. I lived alone, so I played constantly when I wasn't out with friends. I still raid a couple nights a week, but now I do homework stuff with SD, make dinner, bathe SD, and read SD a story for bedtime. DH has done a little better, he'll read her a story by taking a REAL QUICK afk from the raid a couple nights a week. He is really a great husband and father. I just hate having 5 nights a week have to be scheduled around blasted raids. He'll watch a movie with me after the raid- but he falls asleep. He'll watch a movie with me on the day-off of the raid-but he falls asleep.

meh..