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| Tue, 10-17-2006 - 1:41am |
Hi,
I am applying for disability because of both my bp I and fibromyalgia. With my bp I get the rare hallucination and the occasional delusions that those experiences were real. They are always of a religious or spiritual nature.
My mom is concerned that if I tell SSA about them that they will take my kids away. I never thought of that as I am married with a wonderful husband who works nights so he is with me and the kids for most of the day and I am only alone with them for a couple of hours at night until they go to bed. This is also helpful because I have anger issues, now I have never gotten the urge to hit or get violent, but I yell in these rages. I have gone through counseling and pdocs and been on meds and have it well controlled, and haven't had a rage or a delusion or hallucination for a long time now. I don't want to make myself sound like a complete psycho mother who cannot take care of her own kids. I am a very good mother, and work hard to stay that way despite my issues. But when I am working those issues are a much bigger problem, the stress seems to trigger me bad, then coming home to take care of the kids alone (since hubby has always worked nights) in pain from my fibromyalgia, and feeling crazy from the bp. It was a much bigger problem. Since I have been staying home I have not had many anger issues (maybe one or two this whole summer as opposed to 3-5 days a week), or hallucinations or delusions. I am doing whatever I need to, to keep me and my kids safe, and despite everything they always have been safe.
Should I be worried about this? How should I handle this?
Getting slightly anxious and paranoid,
Lisa


Hey Lisa,
Be completely honest with SSA. They cannot, REPEAT CANNOT, take your kids from you because of a hallucination or delusion. It would have to be PROVEN that you are unfit, period. You are not. I was hospitalized 8x...many of them, I was psychotic and hallucinating. Had the same concern and they ASSURED me this was a MEDICAL condition and they couldn't take my kid away. Wouldn't is a better word.
So, yeah...be completely honest with SSA on your application.
Good Luck! BTW: I have both BPI, rapid cycling, Fibro and RA. Its so hard to work sometimes, so I know how you feel.
Hugs,
Keli